Snapped at the big ESPYs awards show, this is what Sir Mix-A-Lot meant when he said "Baby Got Back."

It's not often that I look to a blog about moms for sex tips or advice, but this post from The Stir, caught my eye and attention.

Sometimes, sex boosters come from the most unexpected places and according to this article, most of the time these boosts don't need batteries, a little blue pill or a cream.

1. Tell your guy to pump gas

No, this has nothing to do with the fact that men acting helpful around the house makes us happy and, therefore, randy. It's a little stranger than that. A new British survey found that women get hot when their guys smell of paint, gasoline, leather, or—get this—a printer ink cartridge?! Apparently these are the scents that "transport" many women back to a happy, romantic memory. Hey, whatever works! For the man in your life, you should try to smell like lipstick, baby lotion, or a roast beef dinner. Maybe now someone will invent a perfume that works like Willy Wonka's Three-Course Gum ...

Sally's take: There's nothing hotter than seeing your mate stick something long and curved in a hole. I totally agree with this one.

2. Clean up the house

A study from last fall found that for husbands and wives alike, the more housework you do, the more often you are likely to have sex with your spouse. Mopping isn't exactly the key to getting hot-and-bothered. It's more about being a go-getter. Researchers found that if you throw yourself into your housework, you're also likely to throw yourself into having sexy sex. There's also something to be said for working together as a team. So get that vacuum out while he does the dishes, and later you can give each other a "high-five."

Sally's take: Getting down on the floor and hand washing it in a white T-shirt while making slow, soapy circles and getting hit from the back is so delicious.

3. Have a gingerbread latte

Ginger increases blood circulation to act as a natural Viagra for him. It's a trick that's been around for centuries ... Madame du Barry regularly served ginger to her lovers, including Louis XV, to drive them mad.

Sally's take: This one only works if you can get your mate to shut up about the price of the holiday drinks at Starbucks.

4. Use a super-charged lube

For a more direct effect, you could try a sex drive-boosting lube, like Zestra Feminine Arousal Fluid (which uses a botanical blend of angelica extract, evening primrose oil, and other botanical ingredients to increase clitoral and vaginal sensation) or KY Intense Arousal Gel for Her (which employs niacin to boost blood flow to the area and heighten sensitivity). Many women swear by both.

Sally's take: Yep. They work like a charm, and if you don't spend the next day totally worn out and satisfied, then you did something wrong.

5. Wear red

Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that men get turned on by ladies in red. And apparently, we get turned on when they wear it, too! So for your next holiday party, go for a LRD (Little Red Dress), and suggest he wear a crimson tie to match. It's a win-win, and you'll look festive to boot!

Sally's take: This so works. So much so, that you may not make it to your party.

It's been the year(s) of the Cougar. At first we were intrigued by older women dating younger men. It was as if they were telling society if the men can do it, so can we. Then it became a joke. The subject of sit-coms and movies where Betty White (who I think is more like a dinosaur  than a cougar) hitting on men young enough to be her great-great grandsons.

As I was reading my colleague's nightlife tale of older women trying to pick him up, it got me thinking — Is this really what young men think when women of a certain age (carrying flip phones) try to cozy up to them?

There was the woman who stared me down at Alley Cat. “I’m looking at you, silly!” she yelled out when I tried to sidestep her gaze. She proceeded to tell me she moved to Charlotte 17 years ago for a job. Everything else she said afterward was white noise because all I could think was, “Damn, I was 6!”

Then there was the woman who made it her mission to get me to dance at Luna Lounge, going as far as taking my Blackberry from me. I half-heartedly complied, but about midway through the blaring ’90s hip-hop and my non-committal two-step, it struck me how this one song held completely different places in our psyches. She was excited like they played this at her prom (granted, they probably did). I only heard this song around my older cousins.

It's always been a double standard when it comes to women and dating. She can't have too many exes or she's a crazy slut, yet a man can have five ex-wives and we still think he's a good catch.

Take George Clooney for example. He's a serial dater and the last time he dated someone his own age was probably during his days on The Facts of Life.

The world laughed when Linda Hogan, the ex-wife of Hulk Hogan, began dating Charlie Hill, a dude the same age as her daughter. But what did people say about the Brooke Hogan lookalike Hulk dated? Not much.

But if younger men, the men cougars want, aren't interested, does this mean the jokes will end?

Because if your night is ending like this:

By the end of the night when others are sealing the deal, I’m usually admitting I was born in 1986 and either being laughed at, followed by an abrupt exit or, the weirder of the two, only endearing myself more to these potential cougs.

Is there really a point in trying?

As strip clubs go, we're a lucky city. Charlotte is home to "titty" bars and also upscale venues where you can actually take your mother (well, maybe not your mother).

Among those "upscale" adult entertainment venues is The Men's Club, and this Friday, the club is having a party that won't stop until the sun comes up.

The XXXcess Party is being billed as a night of hotness with DJ Supa Skip spinning the tunes and of course the dancers in one of Charlotte's poshest strip clubs. What's exciting about the Men's Club is that it's welcoming to men and women. It's almost like a sports bar/restaurant with naked women. I'm feeling that.

Friday night, $100 buys you bottle service and a sky box. If you haven't been to the Men's Club and seen the upper boxes, you're missing out. But the best attraction the club has on a Friday or Saturday night has to be the breakfast buffet. This isn't the Waffle House fare, but food cooked by a chef, hot and ready for you to eat while you watch the girls do their thing.

When I went to the breakfast buffet a few months ago, I wasn't surprised to see a crowd of men and women loading up on bacon, grits, scrambled eggs, and omelets made to order.

If you're trying to ease your mate into the idea of hanging out at a strip club or if you're just tired of the club scene — where you can get arrested for showing your breasts — then you should head to the XXXcess Party Friday night. The fun starts at midnight.

Hey Charlotte, it is hot outside.

How hot is it?

Too hot for sex. Umm, maybe not.

If you're hot — like, temperature hot — but horny, you can still enjoy some sex with your partner without worrying about a heat stroke.

Sex in the water does away with the whole concern about sweat and heat. In the shower, in the tub, a pool, the ocean...you get the idea! Blasting the air conditioning in one room just prior to bedtime is another way to go. It may be 80 degrees everywhere else, but for an hour it can be 70 degrees wherever you plan to make whoopee.

Still too hot? Pull out some ice. There's a scene in Spike Lee's Do The Right Thing that shows ice does more than keep your water cool and tasty. The key to having good sex in a heatwave is pretty simple — stay hydrated.

Cooling off is not a problem if your body is healthy. You must keep your body hydrated and keep drinking water at all times. It not only helps keep your body healthy but also improves your sex life. You don’t feel tired and it keeps your body feeling cool. This will also keep you in the mood for sex.

With all this heat, if you have kids, they aren't playing outside these day — meaning you're going to have to sneak a freak. It's time to play hide and seek.

Or better yet, send your kids to grandma's for a few hours and take in a movie with your mate. When you get there, where it is sure to be cold, do this:

A movie date with your partner is a simple but effective way or rekindling romance in the summer months. It’s not necessary that you watch the movie in a theatre. You could even watch a movie at home. Whatever the case, keep it simple. If it’s the movie hall, you can hold hands and steal a kiss or two. If you are of an adventurous bent of mind you could kiss or massage those erogenous zones of your partner. You both would be dying to go to the bedroom by the end of the movie!

And when you get home, try this cooling position. It's not energy efficient, but you both will get off and be cool:

In front of the fridge: Kitchen carnal action may be nothing new to you, but the icebox might be uncharted territory. Open the door to the refrigerator and have your man sit on the floor with his back against the cool shelves. Then straddle him. Not only will the cold air give you both a thrill (you'll surely perk up!), but you can also incorporate food into your frisky play.

Don't let the summer heat wilt your sex life. But don't have a heat stroke either.

Over the weekend, I decided to spend time with my mom.

We were having a good time, until she asked me a strange question.

"What can I do to spice up my love life?"

Really? My first thought was to ignore her question. I mean, this is mother and father. I don't even want to think about them having sex. (Shivering at the mental image)

Then I thought, what would Dan Savage do? He'd answer the question. Granted, I'm no Dan Savage. But Mom knows that I spend a good part of my day writing and thinking about sex. So, I decided to offer her some advice.

All long term relationships lose that luster some times. So, in order to keep things exciting, you have to think out of the box.

1. Change the way you dress at least one night a week.  When your mate comes home on a Wednesday, have  on something that you'd never wear outside the house. A nice piece of lingerie is one way to spice things up. Open the door for your mate dressed in the sexiest lace and/or leather you have. The surprise will definitely turn up the heat.
2. Date night is important. The day to day household things put the ice on a hot romance. So, once a week, it's good to go out -- even if it's just to a park--and talk about anything but household issues. Don't be afraid to get a little raunchy. Tell your mate what you want to do to them and show it with a light touch here or there.
3. Make out like you're in high school. Remember when PDAs were fun and you had to make sure someone didn't catch you. It's even more exciting as an adult. Go to a movie that you have no interest in watching and make out for at least an hour and a half. Extra points if you can get some oral in without getting caught. Best place to sit is in the top of the theater.
4. If you live at home without kids or roommates, why leave the love making to the bedroom. Take a weekend and make love in every room of the house and outside as well.

Here's hoping that my mother doesn't tell me how this worked for her. There are something I don't want to know.

Last year, I went out and brought you a few places to shoot a kick-ass porno in the Queen City. Of course, having sex in public is illegal — so if doing this, you're doing it at your own risk.

Still, there are a ton of visually appealing places in Charlotte that would serve as a great backdrop for a porn movie (it would be great if your porn had a script and a plot, too).

Here are some more places that would add some bang to your skin flick.

The picnic cover at Latta Park. Here two people can meet and discuss how horny they are and get busy on the tables. Extra points if you can incorporate sex on one of the trash cans.

The lower level parking lot of Eastland Mall is dark, empty and begging to be the setting for a dark S&M porn that involves latex, cat-o-nine tails and thigh-high boots. Group sex is also a must in the movie. Maybe even some girl-on-girl-on-girl action. This is probably the one public place in Charlotte where you can film and not get caught.

Isn't the purple exterior of this NoDa-based building pretty? Just imagine watching a couple having wild sex on that purple wall. Purple Rain, Purple Pain?