As a young boy I was attracted to older men. Even before I had any inkling of sexuality. I never dated girls but like most boys looked at porn magazines and masturbated. Being attracted to men who were old enough to be my father or grandfather seemed to be very natural to me. Later in my 20's my infatuation for older men slowly morphed into a sexual attraction. I must add that I grew up without a father,my father deserted our family when I was five. I never had the love and affection of a father and always felt other boys were so lucky to have a daddy. I yearned for that love. I masturbated with fantasies of being with older men. At age 31 and with peer pressure from friends and family I finally decided to get married a woman. My wife was the one who proposed to me! I enjoyed sex with her initially but it got old,I loved her but I was not in love with her.
I was just lying to myself. I grew lonely. When computers came about I found chat rooms on AOL where I chatted with older men and also younger men like myself who were attracted to older men. I learned that there were others just like me who had a deep sincere attraction to older men but who were not attracted to men their age or younger men, exclusively seniors men. Inhsd never been to a guy bar,I had never been with a man sexually ever in my life at this point. I met a wonderful older man from New Orleans, he was age 70 and I was age 41. He was also married,fir 31 years. I had been married 10 years, neither of us had children with our wives. We decided to meet in person. We fell in love and both divorced our wives. We shared 4 wonderful years in love. He died of lung cancer in 2000. His death devastated my heart. We were so deeply in love.
A year later I met my second partner,he was age 69. Our relationship grew slower but after 16 years together we were deeply in love,very happy and content. At age 84 he passed away last May.
We kept our relationship private. He was old fashioned and didn't want to be "out". I understood that. Both of my partners were wonderful mentors, both men highly educated. My second partner was a college professor. Both very worldly men. I learned so much from both of them about being a wholesome man. I feel very lucky to have been deeply in love with two wonderful men. They both healed my heart and erased all the yearning I had as a boy yearning for a father to guide and love me. Both loves were like a story book love. Theses men taught me by example how to cope with being different in today's society. Being gay does not define anyone,it is just a part of the whole person we are. We are human first. I have learned that the majority of homosexual men are high achievers and far more intelligent over a broader spectrum of life's subjects,more compassionate and understanding. I am deeply proud to be gay,but I don't feel the need to shout from the top of a mountain,it is a part of my whole self. I realize that people have different perspectives of homosexuality and have opinions about December-May (inter generational gay relationships). Being happy,in love and feeling content is what we all yearn for in life. If two people fall in love they are in love. Live and let live. Be happy!
50 year old man and I've had lots of relationship with young boys I think they're sexy
At 20 I met a man who had just turned 37 and we fell for each other literally overnight. Not because we had sex, but because we spent all night talking. I was a good student in school who preferred hanging with the teachers asking questions after class to goofing off with my classmates. We were together for 9 years and then I lost him to AIDS-related encephalopathy. During those 9 years he helped me get an education and we bettered our careers enough to buy a house together. I miss him still.
Not every May-December relationship is as healthy as ours was, I admit. But don't assume they are all unhealthy, either. Find out what brought them together, what keeps them together, and what benefits each one brings to the relationship before judging them. As long as the younger man isn't being damaged in some way, I don't see what the fuss is about.
My partner is 30 and I am 73. We have known each other for almost ten years and lived together for five. He only likes the company of men over fifty, whilst I prefer those under that age, as older seem to bore me.
He has a good job whilst I am fairly disabled, although I can manage to look after the house.
I was an only son of a mature couple, who married for convenience; she lost all her money and divorced, whilst he was pressed into producing an heir by his older, spinster sisters, all because of the need to have someone to inherit their fathers (too much talked about) fortune.
I was never a lover of what is now called 'the gay scene' but I was completely infatuated with men of my age, that age group remaining with me all my life.
I have LOATHED being homosexual, believe me, as I have never been able to feel the same about life and living as others. I would NEVER attempt to obstruct the sexual life of any gay person, as 'this is how it is', I regret to advise you.
TRY, hard as it may be, to accept that your son is homosexual, not through choice and that his choice of partner is just that. It's more than likely that they will have a happy time together and should be allowed so to do. However, in my long experience, homosexual relationships seem to have a shorter shelf life, with regret. Nothing can alter this statistic.
Homosexuality is a FACT of life and not a choice, however each individual chooses to deal with their lot. Given life, all will survive, so better accept this and get on with your lot, as best you can.
Don't curse any and don't waste time praying to any type of these many unidentified 'gods' or their feathered friends, nor do you approach any earthly 'do-gooders' who are only bigots, absolutely.
I've written this to all you strangers, in the hope it's helped you to look at this indisputable fact of life in another but educated fashion.
I am 51 and my Boyfriend of 2 years is 20. It was love at first site for both of us. We have so much love for each other that it can't be explained. He is the most caring and compassionate person that I have ever met. He has a big heart and a wonderful soul. We are at a place now that can be a turning point. I don't ever hold him back. Told him that I want him to grow as a person and will never be the one to hold him back. Regardless of the outcome, hopefully my mentoring will move him farther in life. He told me that I am his soulmate and that no matter where we are, we will forever be linked together. For all of the others that think this is wrong, for us it is not. My children love him, my ex wife loves him, and everyone he touches just falls for him. I am going to enjoy our time together, because one day, I know it will come to an end. I just put it in God's hands.
I was in a relationship with a man 17 years older than I and we were together for 26 years .We did a lot of traveling and bought homes together.We had a wonderful family life and ,then he got ill and in 2006 passed away . I still have a lot of support from his family and mine .Age sometimes does'nt matter .it's all different situations ,......
I am a divorced single father of one. I teach. One of my pupils is 13 and has expressed an interest in me beyond what I normally encounter as a mentor. How can I avoid hurting him mentally, emotionally, etc.? I can't participate in a sexual relationship with him, but I do think the world of him. The brain develops until the age of 26. And, it may just be a phase for him. I want to support this boy, and be an outlet for him, but he is very attached to me. I need a way to explain to him that my declining his affections is not a rejection of him on a personal level. Of course I would never hurt him, but it seems this is hurting him at some level. Perhaps deeply. I care about that. So, what can I do to help him? He trusts me, and this is a very vulnerable profession as this pertains to me, and a very vulnerable point in life as it relates to him. Again, I would like to remain available as an outlet for him, and I have no sexual interest in him. Every remedy I think of seems to have great potential for lingering damage. Any perspective out there?
The homophic people who post on here dont realise there showing the world how sick there thinking is. You have to feel bad for them as the reason they say these things is because that is how they where rasised or because of there bad exsperences with others. The people who are the most outspoken againest homosexuality are that way because of there own gay feelings which they may not even realilise be cause they suppressed them All the wise cracks and insaults and violence is there way of dealing with there own hang ups. As we know many I mean thousands use to think the world was flat and that the earth was the center of the universe. The church made Galileo lie about it or get tortured and lots told Columbus he was crazy and was going to fall off the edge of the world. My point is that some take a lot longer to face facts When they where taught lies. And the people around them are not civilised or educated and still live by archaic thinking. hurting or forcing someone to have sex is bad no matter who you are or what sex you are or what age you are. judging Who someone else loves, well how many people say or think they need to get someone elses aproval before they love someone. Do you think any one who had a negitive remark on here first went and got approval from everyone before they made love to someone? Or did they get her drunk so they could take advantage of her? Like I seen so many guys do to younger girls while I was in the milatary over seas. Now there is a real problem to look at. And using Violence to make people do what you want them to do another huge problem. The good thing is the internet lets the nut jobs post so the rest of us can see just how sick they are. Gay love has been around for thousands of years. If some people didnt like it. It would of disappeared long ago. Why a person is so interested in other peoples sex life is a good question. And the ones who are hidding there real feelings and hating others because of there own mental problems they are a problem. They are the ones who should not be around children. peace
and for the homophic people who post on here. You have to feel bad for them there a produce of there poor up bringing. They dont even realise that by posting there archaic thinking there just proving to the world how sick they are. Remember the catholic insurrection where they made Galileo lie and say the earth was the center of the univere and the sun and planets revolved around the earth and Same with Columbus and those who said the earth was flat. They also thought they knew what they where talking about. And could not face reality. The ones who speak out the most againest honosexualily are the ones who most have gay feelings and most likely dont even know that is there problem. Even criminal insane people justify there actions. But not with reality or proven facts. These people are dangerious and should not be allowed around children. peace
dear Dad. If you did a great job of raising you boy for The last 18 years You should have nothing to worry about. If not its kind of late to research now what to do. At 18 he could of very easy hide what he is doing. But looks like he isn't. And Dad does your father influence and judge your sex life? I was in Vietnam with other 18 year olds There where no parents in the combat Zone. Please make sure your supportive and there if he needs you. If you did your job as a parent im sure he will be fine. If he made a mistake he will really need you then. We all make mistakes just hope he is smart enough to be safe.
From a conservative woman's perspective, this wife is out of line with her jealousy and needs to take a step back. Do human beings enjoy looking at other good looking humans? Of course they do. Did she marry a guy? Yes. Hopefully she was already aware that guys liked sex before she met you. Turning into a screamer will not change that but it will teach her husband that telling the truth about himself is not ok. If porn is overused, a partner can be left out in the cold. That doesn't sound like the issue here. Women are valuable and can be extremely beautiful at all ages, even hers.
As to the best friend's cousin, he is a sleeze bag who is not her husband. That guy's personal history does not translate to all guys or the whole industry. If she has an issue with his past behavior, she should take it up with him and leave the husband out of it. Otherwise, it's just a ruse to deflect attention away from the fact that she is terribly jealous. That is an issue she should work on because it can and will drive any good partner away. It's uncalled for.
My partner is 21 years older than me; we've just celebrated 36 years together. I'd do it all over again. 18/31?? What's the big whoop? Calm down.
Being someone who needed, and had, a Top Secret security clearance, I totally understand why discovering that his mate might be addicted to ANYTHING would terrify him. He should proceed very carefully.
I think it's a little creepy for a 31 year old to be seriously dating an 18 year old, but hell I had lots of sex with 20ish guys until my late thirties.
Stories such as this are uplifting. There should be far more of them. Each time I read of a gay couple, regardless of sex, my first thought is "Fantastic! Two more people who won't be contributing to the gene pool."
If no one hits on him he is being marginalized because of his race. If someone does hit on him it is an interracial fetish. Sounds like a person seeking to be perceived as a victim, to me.
I'm 47 my boyfriend of seven years is 22.and it's all good. We're not here to make you happy. We make each other happy. At the end of the day that's all that matters to us.
I don't see this story but the one about the guy who gets hurt from house girlfriend's stubble. There is another option... He could bring a bowl/ bucket of warm water, a towel and washcloth, shaving cream and her razor into the bedroom some night and ask if he can shave her. Not only is this erotic and a good bonding experience but he can freshly shave the hair of that has caused him pain and show her where the hair is that she is either accidentally skipping over in the shower/ bath or just waiting too long in-between shaving.
My ex had the same problem and he did this with me. He told me about it and I tried to be extra careful to shave off the part that bothered him. Now I know where to shave a little more carefully. I mean it is a little hard to see where exactly the hair is down there when you are a female. So it is very easy to miss a spot.
I am not sure this will solve the problem completely but sounds like it may work.
" I was tired of the fear, lying and hiding" says it all. Relationships are not built on monogamy or even sex. They are built on trust. That applies not only to the primary relationship, but also to any "other" relationships. If it has to be a secret, it is wrong. You might be surprised how many people have a second long term romantic relationship with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved and without the knowledge of anyone else.
People think from their own perspective. If your mate makes unfounded accusations about YOUR activities, assuming you are not doing anything to cause it, then what he is actually saying is: "If the shoe was on the other foot, that is what HE would be doing. Therefore, that is what YOU must be doing."
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