From a conservative woman's perspective, this wife is out of line with her jealousy and needs to take a step back. Do human beings enjoy looking at other good looking humans? Of course they do. Did she marry a guy? Yes. Hopefully she was already aware that guys liked sex before she met you. Turning into a screamer will not change that but it will teach her husband that telling the truth about himself is not ok. If porn is overused, a partner can be left out in the cold. That doesn't sound like the issue here. Women are valuable and can be extremely beautiful at all ages, even hers.
As to the best friend's cousin, he is a sleeze bag who is not her husband. That guy's personal history does not translate to all guys or the whole industry. If she has an issue with his past behavior, she should take it up with him and leave the husband out of it. Otherwise, it's just a ruse to deflect attention away from the fact that she is terribly jealous. That is an issue she should work on because it can and will drive any good partner away. It's uncalled for.
My partner is 21 years older than me; we've just celebrated 36 years together. I'd do it all over again. 18/31?? What's the big whoop? Calm down.
Being someone who needed, and had, a Top Secret security clearance, I totally understand why discovering that his mate might be addicted to ANYTHING would terrify him. He should proceed very carefully.
I think it's a little creepy for a 31 year old to be seriously dating an 18 year old, but hell I had lots of sex with 20ish guys until my late thirties.
Stories such as this are uplifting. There should be far more of them. Each time I read of a gay couple, regardless of sex, my first thought is "Fantastic! Two more people who won't be contributing to the gene pool."
If no one hits on him he is being marginalized because of his race. If someone does hit on him it is an interracial fetish. Sounds like a person seeking to be perceived as a victim, to me.
I'm 47 my boyfriend of seven years is 22.and it's all good. We're not here to make you happy. We make each other happy. At the end of the day that's all that matters to us.
I don't see this story but the one about the guy who gets hurt from house girlfriend's stubble. There is another option... He could bring a bowl/ bucket of warm water, a towel and washcloth, shaving cream and her razor into the bedroom some night and ask if he can shave her. Not only is this erotic and a good bonding experience but he can freshly shave the hair of that has caused him pain and show her where the hair is that she is either accidentally skipping over in the shower/ bath or just waiting too long in-between shaving.
My ex had the same problem and he did this with me. He told me about it and I tried to be extra careful to shave off the part that bothered him. Now I know where to shave a little more carefully. I mean it is a little hard to see where exactly the hair is down there when you are a female. So it is very easy to miss a spot.
I am not sure this will solve the problem completely but sounds like it may work.
" I was tired of the fear, lying and hiding" says it all. Relationships are not built on monogamy or even sex. They are built on trust. That applies not only to the primary relationship, but also to any "other" relationships. If it has to be a secret, it is wrong. You might be surprised how many people have a second long term romantic relationship with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved and without the knowledge of anyone else.
People think from their own perspective. If your mate makes unfounded accusations about YOUR activities, assuming you are not doing anything to cause it, then what he is actually saying is: "If the shoe was on the other foot, that is what HE would be doing. Therefore, that is what YOU must be doing."
Being a person of 40 now and looking back on my life I wish I'd never agreed to a relationship with an older man. I met him when I was 17, and he was 45. We've dated for years and years, however, once gay marriage became legal I wanted to get married. He's so opposed to it, he says we don't need a piece of paper to prove how much we love one another.
Well, he's now 68 years old, and has a little Hispanic guy working for him. My partner is always saying how much he appreciates the 22 year old Hispanic guy, and how hard the Hispanic guy works for him.
I used to work for him years ago doing a lot of the jobs the Hispanic guy does now, and when I mention it. My partner says I don't remember you ever doing these things, and then he'll say sorry I do remember. However, it's different with you because we're in a relationship, and he's alone.
He gives the Hispanic guy extra money for work, but not in checks (which are tax deductible) in cash. The Hispanic guy works for him, and he'll write him a check. Once my partner writes him a check he'll ask him "don't you think you deserve more money?" He'll then proceed to give him cash. I found out he was giving him cash because the Hispanic guy told me one day to tell my business partner he really appreciated the extra $50 he left in his tool box. I asked what? What do you mean an extra $50...he proceeded to tell me my (business note business) partner leaves extra cash in his tools quite often.
I confronted my partner about it and he said he'd done it only twice because he thought he didn't charge enough for his work. Well last Sunday the Hispanic guy was doing some work for us on a piece of our property, and I walked over to the back-door of the property. There was my partner staring at him, and my partner didn't realize I was standing there and said "Bless his heart he's working with his hands because the saw is broken". I said what? Partner was shocked I was in the room, and jumped.
I said what do you mean he's working with his hands, and what do you mean the saw is broken? He told me while he was using the saw to cut some limbs the saw broke, I asked how does a saw break itself? He then said the chain suddenly jumped off the saw, and the bar holding the chain got bent. I asked how? He said The Hispanic guy was using it and it got caught in a limb, and the chain suddenly jumped off the bar, and the bar bent.
MY point in writing this dissertation is because no matter what if an older man is attracted to younger guys/boys he's never going to change. I'm attracted to men, real men it's never crossed my mind to date a boy.
I don't buy the garbage some people just feel younger, and are attracted to younger guys because they have more in common with the younger guy. If that were true then why did we spend the first ten years of our relationship with me going to clubs, travelling with friends, etc. if he had more in common with me than his own peers.
Oh, we were in couple's therapy and on my mom's death bed my partner proceeded to tell me he was most attracted to guys 12 - 15 years old. I've been with the pedo for over twenty years of my life and he likes 'BOYS'.
In reference to the 13 year old boy being around the 50 year old man. Scream, yell, rant and rave in the streets if you have too, but just get that 13 year old boy away from that sick pervert. No mentor is going to ask a 13 year old boy to spend the night with him. It's not normal, and even if the child has come out and his parents, plus asked the old fart to be a mentor to him. They can find a much younger mentor. This man is a pervert...he likes boys, and no-one will ever convince me other-wise.
I was molested by my minister when I was 15, and I strongly believe it's the main reason I dated older men. There was a time I felt safe with older men, but younger men can make you feel just as safe. Younger men can fall in love, younger men can also have great sex with you without falling asleep.
I'm certain some gay people will blast me for writing this. However, there are far more gay men who are older attracted to younger guys than there ones attracted to men their own age. It’s a control thing…the younger man/boy is much easier to control. Men are men, no matter if they're gay, straight or bisexual...most all of them don't think with their minds.
My partner who I've dedicated my life to for over twenty years, and am tied up in business together is now looking at someone young enough to be his grandson. It' disgusting....
If he lives long enough they'll soon be young enough to be his great grandson.
sex is not "assigned" at birth - at least it should not be by whoever is doing the assigning because gender is determined AT CONCEPTION: two x chromosomes results in a person who can have a baby etc., that is, a person who manifests as female...an x and a y chromosome results in a male (active) energy manifesting person amen?
but in this slavery genocide and imperialism based nation in rebellion against God called the u.s.a. somebody (the social system?) (who?) "ASSIGNS" to a newborn a RIGIDLY CIRCUMSCRIBED role based on having a penis or not - the rigidity is so great and all-pervasive (like the RACIAL RIGIDITY) that if you want to manifest any meaningful trait or traits of the "opposite" gender you have to go all the way and have your balls cut off or have a penis and balls sewn on...why else other than that extreme rigidity of role expectation and assignment would somebody go through all the pain and trouble and expense of "gender reassignment surgery" and life-long hormone treatment?
and they still haven't done it completely: the new man cannot impregnate and the new woman cannot conceive amen?
anyhow and anyway your TRUE IDENTITY is not your gender or your favorite sex act but intead THE LIFE IN YOU ID GOD AMEN!?
and the AMAZING GRACE AND TRUTH OF GOD is a GREATER pleasure than even multiple orgasms amen?
I totally agree with the people about making blanket statements. What the actual f***? you do NOT, i repeat- NOT have the right to ask such private, personal questions about someone JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. challenge your mind and beliefs.
You know, at first I had a problem with old guys/chickenhawks/daddies-- and I AM A YOUNG gay man who LIKES them. But all it really comes down to is if the person has good intentions or not. Humans are intuitive creatures and we usually know what's up in people's minds.
sorry dickhead its inyoface I was referring to
It appears to me that dickhead has strong judgemental problems clouding his ideas. We hardly live in a perfect society or world so it would be positive if people were to look at things on their own individual basis. If a 60 year old guy finds young guys or girls attractive he´s hardly a perv, what is this word anyway?
I have children and I give them freedom as long as they are not going to have issues relating to health , criminality or life preservation. I did however spend time with them when they were kids to prepare them for life..thanks
I agree. Either the letter is a fake or the child is being molested by SOMEONE.
You do not do anything while drunk that you didn't want to do. What alcohol does is turn off that little voice in your head that says "nothing good can come of this". You then do what you wanted to do but were afraid of, or at least knew of, the possible consequences.
I told my daughters that the best way to evaluate a new boyfriend was to get him drunk. That is the quickest way to find out who is really in there. Does he become a flirt, a giggler, or an angry obnoxious fighter?
If the guy above sends flirty things when drunk but denial things when sober, he likes it but is afraid of the consequences.
There is a huge difference between BDSM play and physical and emotional abuse. Try not to confuse them.
An absolutely outstanding bit of journalism, Dan Savage. I expect that you'll be receiving your Pulitzer any day now.
Talk to your partner to add a another man in your sex life.just be romantic to only your husband. But give him that same thing add a women for him.. he than will like the idea.
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