he was apparently ignorant for not even asking if it was somebody spot as far as racist I can't really say other than he was just being very rude....sometimes people just want to get a reaction out of others so they can always try to end up the vulnerable victim...
Seriously, who thought the Democrats in charge of Charlotte would not immediately put to full use all the cool nifty surveillence gear they got as a result of the convention?
Dumbest article I've ever read...who do I call to get that 2 minutes of my life back?
So of course you know I would have started a conversation. If he refused to talk, I would have explained that his best bet would be to keep it moving! You know I wanna say more, but I'll leave it as is. LOL
Wow! Charles you are such a classy and thoughtful individual. Me with my straight out of Jersey familiarity with blatant racism and racial profiling would have addressed it by stating how rude and disregarding his actions were and ask him to move respectfully. Is this the best approach. ..uh, maybe not but this intelligant Black woman ex front line activist just has not learned to bite her tongue. I just try not to let my emotions push me to the point of being ignorant in how I address it. BUT I will address it every time.
@Dianne Marcucci You bring up an excellent point that we can feel slighted and confused as to why we are being treated a certain way because we are different. The difference can be race, gender or the perception of being an outsider. Thank you for reading and sharing your experiences on this topic!
@Mike Watson You are so correct that we are becoming more socially unaware as a society. We shop at the same Harris Teeter and OMG I think I have been in the same cashier's line too as she constantly talks to other employee's while watching me bag my own groceries....LOL Thank you for reading and as always sharing your insightful perspective man!
@Marty Kindall Chester I am like you Marty and would be too awkward to just sit down at someone's table without asking....LOL And yes it is sad that in this day and age we still have to consider things like race in certain situations. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!
@rfox I was put off by one person joining my table I am not sure what I would do if an entire table of folks bombarded me....LOl You handled it with definite grace. Maybe he was part cat...smile Thank you for reading and sharing your own experiences on this subject!
It takes energy to be that anti-social. I'm glad you wrote about this and took the time to address so many aspects of this situation.
I'm comforted as one who experiences certain social symptoms in a small Texas town. Here, it is not racism, but that you must be related(!) or you are invisible and if visible, will be mistreated.
Love the article Charles- bringing awareness is always necessary- I especially appreciate that your sister engaged the "sitter" in a positive way showed character and strength, the fact he chose to be ignorant, dismissive, racist, rude or just 'special' (bless his heart) is his issue, that because of your positive approach has no strength. As an observation on American culture- I agree that we are becoming not just culturally insensitive but socially unaware, I often stand in line waiting to be acknowledged or checked out at Harris Teeter while the cashier talks loudly to her friend 3 aisles down about her night out, what food she just ate and what an ass her boyfriend is, the whole time consciously ignoring me- I am 6'4" with tattoos, bald, and white also tough not to notice- and this abject conscious decision to ignore me and not do your job in the service industry happens all the time- my favorite is when they begin to ring me up and continue talking over me and past me to their friend while smacking their gum. KEEP up the good work- love what you do
It is a shame that you even have to wonder. Of course, Mr. Rude did sit with the most interesting and entertaining people in the place, IMHO. I'm socially awkward, so I would never do anything like that to begin with, but if I had, I would have most certainly opened my mouth to say HI.
@DLP I agree that some folks are rude and self centered but the point is whenever race, class, gender or other characteristics are involved you are not sure if the behavior is motivated just from plan old rudeness or some other factor. Thank you for reading and sharing your views!
@Melyndag I also do not like when people crowd me in line while completing a transaction. It is like do you not still see me taking up this space? I commend you for defending your personal space....smile Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts on this topic!
@Godds Child Yes it would only add to the stereotype to go all "angry black person" on folks....LOL. I commend you for exercising your economic power when folks do not give the appropriate customer service. More folks should do the same. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts on this subject!
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
Some people are rude and totally self centered. I does not necessarily have anything to do with race.
It sounds like a good ol' country case of "social retardation"... I could be wrong. It's hard to tell these days. I would have been uncomfortable too. I do not allow people in my personal space and I hate it when someone does that. I have asked several people behind me at the grocery store/walmart to please step back while I am completing my transaction. People will walk right up behind you as if they are trying to push you on out of the line or as if they are trying to see your pin number. Quite a few have been offended that I asked but most are very apologetic and they take steps backward. This man was rude and ignorant...
my opinion: not racist,yes he was ignorant to social graces..... Last year I was sitting in the middle of a large table waiting on my party to arrive when an entire family (multiple generations) came and sat down around me. Talk about uncomfortable. I don't remember their race just that there were tables around me that were open and they even had to get an extra chair so they could all fit w/ me. Now, I looked back and forth at them as they got their places situated w/ complete bewilderment in my eyes. WTH is this? No one asked, No one said anything to me. Everyone started talking about their family and who was going to tell U.Joe he needed to start pulling his weight. I am usually not at a loss of words but this was a new day. Well the youngest started to eat and was having trouble opening the package of sauce so I reached across the table and opened it for her. She said thank you and looked at the oldest person at the table and said, "see, I told you she was one of us". We all oddly laughed and then my actual party came up and took another table. I wished my new odd friends a blessed day and went to join my more normal friends. I don't remember their race just the unique manner in which this tribe went through life. Almost like no matter what you will like us. It is a given. They were right. Your guy seems like one of those who wants the interaction but doesn't want the interaction. Almost like after sitting down he wanted to be left alone. Maybe he is part cat?
i believe it was both ...due to the fact the person did not acknowledge you or your sister at all ..even when spoken to . seemed to be an unspoken dare to call out the offense . race and cultural require a lot of patience and i salute you and your sis for not "going all angry black person on them ", which is usually our go to strategy when frustrated . my pet peeve is waiting to be acknowledged while on line as the clerk banters ( usually on the phone , sometimes in person and happens especially in a cab as you explain the way YOU WOULD LIKE TO GO !) in their native tongue with no "i'll be right with you " . i've left many establishments and asked many a cab to pull over due to this ....i refuse to suffer in silence or spend my resources with anyone who makes me feel invisible !!!
@Daisean Mills you are so correct young brother artist that there is a double standard of how certain situations are handled. I know it would have been a very different scenario if I had sat down uninvited and acted as rudely as our unwanted lunch guest. Keep doing your thing and fight with your mind and talent. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts on this subject!
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