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Enough with man-blaming - take some responsibility

If you're searching for a hot ticket to something fun and exciting for late night Sunday, you'll have to dig deep in Charlotte. None of the uptown venues seem to have found their niche for a beginning-of-the-week kick-off party, unless you're a Bank of America employee and have one of those numerous mystery holidays that let you stay home on Monday.However, those in the know have discovered that Scorpio's on Freedom Drive is the place to be for one of the craziest tea parties you'll ever go to. The oldest gay club in Charlotte -- over 20 years running -- has consistently pulled down a packed mixed crowd for the Sunday night drag shows, with glamour, music, lights, and dancing that you won't find anywhere else for $8.

Sometimes you get a little more for your money than you originally bargained for.

I spotted this girl who obviously came out with her girlfriends to spend the evening. She was nothing short of a 60s-retro knockout -- probably barely 21, and she had long blonde hair draped over her petite frame that would best fit a size 2 soaking wet.

What drew my attention to her wasn't her great looks, but the great care she took in making a major production over it. She twirled around the discotheque with her skirt pulled down so low that it flaunted a full view of her tattoo, just above the area where nature decided her back needed to part like the Red Sea and give her a place to sit. I didn't understand how the skirt was staying on without Velcro.

Her assets in the front were prominently displayed with a thin sheath of whatever she was trying to pass off as a blouse. She had accumulated a small collection of suitors, and proceeded to push up against every guy in the place who even looked in her direction or expressed an interest in speaking with her. She was as drunk as a monkey.

What made matters worse is that an equally inebriated guy eventually caught her attention, and after an hour or so of this masquerade, both of them gathered their things to leave together in what I hope was a cab.

It's a scenario that plays itself out over and over again in almost any dance club in Charlotte. The irony here is that, according to some women's rights activists, she did nothing wrong by leaving with the guy, but if they had it their way, he'd be going to jail. Yes, some feminists say that if a man has sex with a woman who's intoxicated, it's rape, plain and simple.

To the male gender, I would like to apologize for the confusion and let you know that some women -- including myself -- don't agree with this new, increasingly popular agenda.

There are many things in life that women should be able to do: Women should be able to walk through Central Park in New York in the middle of night alone, but we all know we can't. Women should be able to leave the keys in the ignition of our cars, leave it unlocked, and fully expect it to be there when we get back. But should we be allowed to go out clubbing in our sluttiest best, slam back an overabundance of stiff martinis, rub our boobs against every male in the room, and then scream foul when someone takes us up on our seemingly valid offer?

I think not.

Before you run to the phone and start screaming that I'm saying women ask to be sexually violated -- I am not. Men who taint women's drinks with illegal drugs, grab women in the dark corners of parking lots, or violate them while they're passed out cold should be dragged out into the street, strung up on a lamppost, and castrated like a spring pig. OK? To me, it doesn't matter if the victim was a local clerk or a hooker.

However, it's alarming to see how many men are actually being put on trial for a sexual situation for which I don't even think men are responsible.In this case, sexual double-standards have gone too far. What's a guy supposed to do? In addition to having to check an ID to make sure the girl isn't jailbait, he has to have a drug test kit and a breathalyzer in one pocket and condoms in the other? When are women going to take a little responsibility for the situations in clubs and bars that they willingly put themselves in week after week?

I don't think being a female gives any woman a license to flaunt her sexuality, deliberately tease and taunt men, give them a very open invitation to bed, and then wake up the next morning and call 911 because the guy decided he didn't want to leave his phone number when he left.

It makes me wonder what the jury is thinking when the fates of these men are decided. When you think about it, the number of potential cases is astronomical. Every single man who frequents dance clubs, bars, and even fraternity parties, and who takes a woman home, is playing Russian Roulette with his penis should he put it somewhere the woman may regret later. It's one thing if the man is sober, it's quite another if he's under the influence as well; in this case, two wrongs do make a right -- his right to not be charged with a crime that should never be considered a criminal offense to begin with.

Women need to take responsibility for their own actions, and know when to act like ladies instead of tramps. Times have changed, and men shouldn't be burdened with all of the responsibility for sexual screw-ups, while the women who intentionally put themselves in harm's way have zero accountability.

So cheer up, guys -- some women are on your side.

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