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Heaven help us 

John McCain's former reverend is a hypocrite

Homos are now marrying in California (congrats to all), and should a tornado -- or an earthquake or a meteor or the Incredible Hulk -- flatten, say, San Francisco's City Hall during a big gay wedding, respected leaders of the religious right will rush to cable broadcast studios to insist that the tornado/earthquake/meteor/Hulk was God's divine judgment, His righteous wrath, the Baby Jesus's latest temper tantrum, wocka wocka wocka.

"I believe that the judgment of God is a very real thing," said the Rev. John Hagee, John McCain's ex-BFF, when asked about Hurricane Katrina, which struck New Orleans just before a "massive homosexual rally," aka an annual street party called "Southern Decadence," was supposed to take place in the French Quarter. "I believe that the Bible teaches that when you violate the law of God, that God brings punishment sometimes before the day of judgment. And I believe that Hurricane Katrina was, in fact, the judgment of God against the city of New Orleans."

And God got his way: By drowning all those little old ladies in their attics in the Ninth Ward, God prevented that massive gay rally -- for one year.

So how does a douchebag like Hagee explain away the recent tragedy in Iowa? A tornado struck a Boy Scout camp, killing four and injuring scores more, and the Scouts are famously anti-gay and anti-atheist. Well, we need only to consult the same interview with Rev. Hagee to learn the answer: While all natural phenomena represent God's "permissible will," says Hagee, "it is wrong to say that every natural disaster is the result of sin ... No man on Earth knows the mind of God."

See how that works? Not every natural disaster is the result of sin, you see, because sometimes natural disasters happen to us, not just to them, and when they happen to us, well, the Lord sure moves in mysterious ways, and no man on Earth knows the mind of God. But let a natural disaster strike San Francisco this week, next week, or ever again, and Rev. Hagee will be able to read the mind of God like it was a large-print edition of Highlights for Children.

I'm a 20-year-old female college student, and I have a boring history of serial monogamy. I've been in three long-term, committed relationships since I was 15, and I've never had a dick in my mouth that I didn't think was attached to a boy I could love forever.

The problem is this: My current boyfriend is wonderful. We've been together for a year and a half, we're sharing a room in a house we rent with friends, we're very compatible, and we love, respect, and trust each other. But I am starting to long for that lurid history that I never had. Is it normal to feel this way when you realize you really are with someone you plan to stay with for years? I hate the "we need some time apart" line because it seems irrational to part with the expectation of getting back together, but I'm afraid of losing this guy for good over my wanting some quality slut time.

Maybe I just need to be single, whether I sleep with anybody or not. What should I tell him? Should I just wait it out? We're so close and I hate feeling this way.

Restless And Heartbroken

You've convinced yourself that you can have this boy or you can have sexual adventures, RAH, a classic false choice. Who says you can't have this boy and sexual adventures, too? OK, he might say you can't have him and sexual adventures, too -- at least the kind that involve you putting a dick in your mouth that's not attached to him -- but who knows? If you scrape up the courage to tell your wonderful boyfriend how you're feeling, you might find out that your boyfriend is anxious to do a little lurid adventuring, too. Or your might wind up alone. Either way, you'll wind up having your sexual adventures.

I am a 31-year-old gay male and have been with my 27-year-old boyfriend for a year. It's been absolutely amazing and he's everything I've ever wanted. We've had some issues concerning trust and communication because our previous relationships failed due to infidelity and being lied to, but we've been working on that in therapy.

Where it gets complicated is that he proposed on our one-year anniversary. I told him that I thought it was too soon and that I wanted to resolve any and all trust issues before committing to marriage. Needless to say he was hurt, but he said that he would get over it and would ask me again in a year. My question: Is it possible that I have done irreparable damage to this relationship? Should I have said yes (as I do see myself marrying him someday)?

Did I Make A Mistake

Seeing as how something as trivial as an ill-considered comment or an unexpected facial can do irreparable harm to a relationship, DIMAM, it stands to reason that something as major as a declined marriage proposal can do lasting harm.

I'm not saying that you necessarily fucked things up irreparably by not accepting your boyfriend's proposal -- it's a good thing that you take marriage seriously enough not to want to rush into it -- but if you do see yourself marrying this man one day, you might want to go back and say yes.

Accepting a marriage proposal, DIMAM (and all the other gays and lesbians confronting this issue now, thanks to California), only means you're engaged. An engagement doesn't obligate you to follow through with the wedding; think of it as going steady on steroids. It does obligate you to move toward marriage in good faith, to work on "any and all" issues that can be resolved and keep your eyes peeled for deal-breaking issues that can't, and to shit or get off the pot within a reasonable period of time. But that's all.

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