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Kinky Superman 

I am a straight and, dare I say it, vanilla woman who met a straight man who somewhat reminds me of Clark Kent and Superman. He's seemingly mild-mannered, good-looking, pleasant, an all-around great guy, just like Clark Kent — and just like Superman, he likes to wear tights.

It ends up that he likes to be dominated, spanked, and buttfucked — and crossdress. Our sexual encounters are a bit different for me, to say the least, but I thoroughly enjoy them. I like spanking him, humiliating him, tying him up, and watching him try on panties (in which he looks darn good!). It's all rather exciting!

Does this mean that I'm a dominatrix? Would I act this way with other men, or is it just him? And finally, where do I go from here?

Being Deviant Satisfies Me

A dominatrix? That's a professional title, BDSM, and you're not planning to pursue a career in kink. (Are you?) To determine if you're genuinely and independently kinky and not just getting off on beating and binding the boyfriend because he gets off on it, you'll just have to beat and bind someone else sometime. As for where you go from here, BDSM, if you're in San Francisco or you can get there for a weekend, you might wanna sign up for Forte Femme, a weekend-long "sensual dominance intensive" hosted by kink superstar/supernova Midori. More info at www.fortefemme.com.

For the past six months, a very attractive, put-together auburn-haired man has come to my attention, but I have not done anything about this because he is a total stranger. He waits at the same bus stop as me in the morning. We also transfer to the same streetcar. I've been dating other people since I've noticed Hot Bus Stop Man, but no one incredible, and I can't seem to get Hot Bus Stop Man out of my mind.

I've only made eye contact with this cutie a few times because I'm not in the habit of asking complete strangers out. This morning, though, I attempted a smile in his direction, although I can't be sure he saw because, of course, I was trying my best not to look at him and give myself away. What else can I do?

Girl Crushing On Hot Bus Stop Man

I'm only running your insanely boring letter on the off chance — two very off chances — that HBSM is (1) a reader and (2) not a fag. Hopefully, he is and isn't, respectively, will recognize himself, and will ask your demure little ass out. (If you're reading and you're gay, HBSM, compliment GCOHBSM's new shoes the next time you see her and put her out of her misery, OK?)

If he's not a reader, GCOHBSM, you'll just have to risk saying something to him. Try "Hello." Then smile at him — at him, not "in his direction" — and give yourself the fuck away, already.

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