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Not your traditional holiday love story 

Breaking Up

Have you ever been in a relationship that you feel has run its course?

I recently found myself in that situation. Typically you cannot identify what moment or thing that made you realize it's time to call it quits, but in this case I could, and it was Donald Trump.

Now I know what you are thinking: How can the billionaire real estate tycoon, reality TV star and presidential candidate have anything to do with you and your partner? Well, to understand that we have to start early on in my present relationship.

Like most relationships, ours started off with that wonderful honeymoon period during which all of your individual and collective quirks are looked at through rose-colored glasses that turn the most annoying habits into eccentric traits of endearment. Simple, innocuous things your partner did when you first got together were so cute; like how they licked a spoon after desert or how when they sneezed it sounded like they were holding it in. The things that used to bring a playful smile to your lips now reduce you to constantly throwing mental, open-handed, circa 1970 pimp slaps when you notice them.

Sometimes in a relationship — in your quest to be together — you start to lose yourself. You might not hit the gym like you used to or do things that make you happy like slip into a matinee movie showing or a spend a Sunday afternoon reading a good book. In that same way, things did start to change for me. I noticed that invitations to go out with friends for dinner or to enjoy some urban nightlife were replaced with nights spent chilling at home with Netflix and television. And it was during many of these nights that I began to recognize patterns in my partner's ideology that had previously gone unnoticed. It was becoming obvious that we were not spiritually or politically yoked as much as I had first thought.

I noticed that while I passionately supported the #blacklivesmatter movement — created to protest the deaths of African-Americans like Michael Brown, Tamir Rice, Jonathan Ferrell, Sandra Bland and Freddie Gray — my partner seemed to watch with a detached indifference. I took note.

One evening while watching CNN, I praised Bree Newsome for her historical and heroic act of scaling a flagpole outside the South Carolina Capitol building and removing a flag that had been a symbol of oppression and fear for many minorities but my partner seemed unimpressed by the young heroine. I took note.

You also know things are not quite right in your relationship when your friends give you subtle hints and side eyes but don't really come out and tell you what they're thinking, because in the beginning you were both so into each other but now social events have become a struggle. Of this, as well, I took note.

But I truly believe the breaking point between us came when Donald Trump began his presidential political antics. When Trump began to escalate his political persona by spewing misogynist remarks that insulted women, including other female Republican presidential candidates ... I was incensed.

When Trump made a derogatory statement suggesting a large percentage of Mexican immigrants are rapists, murderers and criminals ... I was outraged.

When Trump continually shared disparaging statements about African-Americans including a statistically inaccurate and highly inflammatory tweet stating that blacks kill 81 percent of white homicide victims (a "statistic" fabricated seemingly out of thin air) ... I was speechless.

But the nail that sealed the coffin on our relationship came from seeing how some of his friends were supporting Donald Trump; many boldly sharing their own bigotry, fears and disheartening views on race, class and gender on social media and the like. That's when I decided to take action.

It was time for me to end what had become a tumultuous and toxic relationship. The only question was 'how to do it?' I thought of many scenarios, like dinner at a fancy place so that my partner would not show out when I said we were over; an email; a text; an appearance on Maury? I finally decided on doing it here in this public forum.

So although we started out with much promise it is clear to me that we are not moving in the same direction, so it is with much distress that I declare I am through with 2015! Kick rocks!

I just hope things aren't awkward on New Year's Eve when you meet my new boo, 2016.

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