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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Breaking up with my BFF

Posted By on Tue, Aug 25, 2015 at 1:27 PM

I’ve always hated change, especially when it comes to having to change my friend groups. I went to a public high school where I was on the varsity cheerleading team during freshman and sophomore year; then to a residential high school for junior and senior year where I was the hoodest nerd; then to college where we made the reference “2012 squad” happen. From freshman year until now, one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn is that most of your closest friends will not be there 10 years, five years or maybe even a few months from now.

This past weekend, I broke up with one of my oldest friends. Yes, I said broke up and, no, I’m not referring to a love of any sorts, but a “bffae” — you know, one of the popular childhood acronyms “best friend forever and ever.” Granted, we’d technically been broken up for quite a while but had yet to discuss why. Things had been different ever since we moved out of our joint apartment and, instead of addressing our issues, we just went our separate ways.

Needless to say, when I received a “group text” addressing that friend’s issues with everyone, I was less than amused. In old high school fashion, I used the platform to express my feelings as well. It was not my best moment, but everyone thinks they’re right in these situations, so maturity isn’t always the focus.

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Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Checking in at The Scorpio

Posted By on Tue, Aug 18, 2015 at 1:57 PM

If you didn’t get the memo, or maybe just didn’t head uptown this weekend, you missed out on an amazing LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer) Pride Festival and parade.

All things rainbow, skin and a little S&M, Pride happens twice a year in Charlotte — Black Gay Pride in July and then Pride in August — don’t ask that’s just how it is. It often looks like a unicorn threw up, and I love it! Resting bitch face is few and far between as thousands fill the streets of the Queen City (yasss, queen).

Inclusivity and the celebration of all is always the focus of Pride, in Charlotte and it’s safe to say at any festival you’ll go to. What I love most is that anything goes! Glitter, cheetah print and leather, you name it, it’s like the Spice Girls have officially reunited for a tour.

This year, of course, was extra special with #lovewinning as the legalization of gay marriage nationwide occurred back on June 27. As a result, I was especially excited to join in on the festivities this year.

I have been to many festivals, so I decided to enjoy the lake life on Saturday while anticipating returning to one of my favorite clubs, The Scorpio.

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Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Meet the parents

Posted By on Tue, Aug 11, 2015 at 1:46 PM

Last weekend, I took someone to my home to meet the ’rents for the first time. Unlike high school — where bringing someone home is the only way you’ll ever see that person because helicopter parents won’t have it any other way — now I’m somewhat of an adult and dating is a little more serious, or so they say. I didn’t think it was a big deal because my parents are your run-of-the-mill protective, but super playful, parents — same goes for the other 12-15 members of my family he met at my niece’s first birthday. They are all always cordial, but I can tell quickly whether or not they think someone’s a good person. I guess he passed the test. (Disclaimer: If you’re reading this, boyfriend no. 2 isn’t that far away, so don’t get a big head.)

So, after a good weekend, I came back to work not thinking much about it. We laughed about how my parents and my family “loved” him and how I needed to meet his family next.

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Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Cuffing season is on the way

Posted By on Tue, Aug 4, 2015 at 1:13 PM

Before you know it, summer will be over. And with the start of fall, cuffing season officially kicks off. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, I went ahead and looked up the definition on Urban Dictionary — the go-to resource for all things slang.

“Cuffing season: During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be ‘Cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.” Picture yourself actually being handcuffed to another human and you can understand why this phrase has become popular.

In my past relationship, everything was great during the colder months but as soon as spring fever hit, any and everything was grounds for “taking a break.” Blame it on the “suns out buns out” mentality I guess. Having lived in the Queen City for three years now, I can definitely understand why it’s easier to be single during the summertime. Between the many breweries, AA5, concerts, festivals, pool parties and lake trips who has time to be tied down by a relationship? Not to mention, who can keep their eyes to themselves with the amount of skin that is shown during the hot N.C. heat?

Conversely, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD, how ironic?), better understood as winter depression, is pervasive in young professional circles as the weather cools down. There is a common understanding that nightlife slows down significantly in the Q.C. during the winter and I can’t say my three years of experience has shown me otherwise. Going out becomes a task because it’s hot in the club but freezing on the walk there. Anything with a patio, unless it’s filled with heaters, is rendered useless. And the pool is nothing but a reminder of the ragers you’re going to miss for at least six months. During this time the focus shifts from skin to which spoon — romantic cuddle partner — will keep you warm at night.

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