Since I keep seeing girl-on-girl hate crimes being committed, spanning from elementary school to adulthood, I feel compelled to put my pen down and write a “Girl Code Amendment” — kinda like the Constitution of Female Behavior that should be considered law.
Repeat after me.
Thou shall not call another girl ugly, fat or insult her outfit without looking in the mirror first. Don’t hate, congratulate (especially if that’s how you expect to be treated in return).
Thou shall not take your insecurities out on another girl by bullying and trying to make her feel insecure.
Thou shall not be a homewrecker.
Thou shall never knowingly be the “side chick” — or ever settle for being as such.
Thou shall not flirt with a guy another friend has dated or truly cared about. Including but not limited to texting, Facebooking, tweeting and/or calling.
Thou shall not try to sabotage another woman’s relationship or reputation by spreading rumors and being a vixen.
Thou shall realize the power of the vagina and not give it up too easily.
Thou shall not let another woman leave the ladies room with toilet paper stuck to her shoe, and will be honest about whether that dress makes her look fat or not.
Thou shall never impede on a man’s responsibility as a father and his duties to the mother of his child.
Thou shall respect your girlfriend’s trust and keep secrets, not borrow clothes without asking, nor talk behind their backs.
Thou shall celebrate a girlfriend’s success rather than belittle it and hate on her about it. Because haters are just people who need love.
Chicks before dicks!
Consider this an official document in written law. Now put your John Hancock on it like the Declaration of Independence. But this is the Declaration of End-Dependence. The No. 1 rule of girl code is to never depend on a man to make us happy and whole. Our happiness is our own responsibility.
This article appears in Best of Charlotte 2011.
OK I get all of them but this one:
Thou shall not flirt with a guy another friend has dated or truly cared about. Including but not limited to texting, Facebooking, tweeting and/or calling.
In guy code, if your ex is a great person and one of your buddies wants to date her good for them. I have truly cared about my exes and wish them the best in life even if it did not work out between us. Of course is she’s a complete bitch you give him the heads up [and if he’s an ass same goes on letting her know but on the down low because bros before hos =)].
First or all, I want you to thank you for taking the time to write this piece. As a bro, I wish many other bros had read something like this because the opposing genders supposedly share similar codes. I mean, almost identical as far as the relevant issues are concerned (because I am never going to say “hey buddy, what you’re wearing makes you look fat” (because I’m sure he already knows, and even if that’s news to him … them are usually fightin’ words).
Unfortunately, ignorance isn’t bound to one gender or the other; leaving both sides with those who seem to either not know, not understand, or simply choose to ignore the code. Which makes life a bit more difficult for those who do everything in their power to abide by the golden rule (which should AT LEAST be applied to those you call your friends).
Okay, so I noticed an inconsistency and felt the need to point it out…
“Thou shall not call another girl ugly, fat or insult her outfit without looking in the mirror first…”
“Thou shall not let another woman leave the ladies room with toilet paper stuck to her shoe, and will be honest about whether that dress makes her look fat or not.”
How are you going to tell another girl that what she’s wearing makes her look fat if you run into her in a ladies room? She’s already out, so there’s nothing she can do about it… put yourself in their shoes, you know that if some girl approached you in the bathroom while you were out and was like, “Hey, I am not trying to be rude, just looking out… that dress makes you look fat” you might (or you might not, but I know girls who would) let it completely ruin the evening or at least make you uncomfortably self-conscious. But yeah, I felt compelled to take the liberty of providing my unsolicited two cents. 😉
As far as Sean’s opinion is concerned, I live by a different guy code. If your friend dated a girl and had feelings for her, unless it’s been… like… years and he’s over her, true “bros before *hoes” don’t cast their line into the same pond (unless initially asked by said bro, which rarely ever happens). That’s a just a no-no. There are far too many fishing holes around for you to find it, in any way, necessary to go there. I realize that fishing holes may not have been the best analogy… but it gets my point across. =)
– Fishfood
What a great list!! I work with teen girls in a residential setting and there is so much girl on girl hate.
I think the one that should be added is
Thou shall learn to let hatred go and free ones self from past incidents of girl crime and will under no circumstances hurt another in the name of revenge.
No, dicks before chicks.
Any girl (unless a lesbian) would rather have a boyfriend to kiss than a girlfriend to just talk to.