When primping and packing for a night out, there is a list of necessities we must stuff our pockets and purses (or bras) with — ID, cash, camera, phone, gum, maybe a compact. But there’s one thing that should always be left at home: insecurities. And you definitely don’t want to wear those on your sleeve.
Insecurities are the accessory that cause you to look atrocious and unapproachable. Yet there are women who think they’re in style. Said women are easily detectable — they’re usually the ones wearing the least amount of clothes and the most amount of makeup. The ones who are sitting around waiting for guys to notice them as opposed to having a good time with their friends. Insecure girls are the ones who stare other girls down, then proceed to put them down, developing a false sense of confidence by finding flaws in other females. Might I suggest accessorizing with a bracelet rather than these vaginal insecurities?
I get it. The nightlife scene sometimes feels like an exclusive, beautiful-people club, and it can stir the adolescent insecurities in you. But if you don’t feel confident enough about yourself to not let such things affect you, then perhaps you should just stay in and read some self-help books. Because ladies, the mind, not the mirror, is the judge … and certainly no one else is. After all, haters are just confused admirers.
And men, you certainly don’t get off so easily. Your “menturities” (immature male insecurities) harbor the vaginal insecurities. I rarely get approached by men unless they’re so drunk they say things like, “You’re so hot I would eat the discharge out of your panties.” Seriously, someone actually said that to me. My good guy friends insist nothing’s wrong with me, but that secure women are intimidating to approach. Well, if a guy doesn’t have the balls to come up and talk to me, I’m going to assume he doesn’t have the balls to do much else.
Cason-Point: Don’t take your vaginal insecurities or menturities out with you … or out on other people. Just have fun in your own skin and try some self-confidence on for size — there’s no sexier accessory.
This article appears in Feb 9-15, 2010.
