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Back to School, Back to Sex
Sex on campus is more casual than ever, say many college students - and more alienating and dangerous, too
By Chris Harris
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Oral sex very often precedes sexual intercourse. The reverse was true 40 years ago, says Britton, because oral sex was viewed as "more intimate than quote-unquote fucking." In fact, many college students don't think of oral sex as sex at all, and the "Bill and Monica" situation only added to that confusion.
"Most girls think guys will like them if they give them head," says Molly, who is going back to school this year. "Instead of having sex, they'll just do that. They think it's OK, because, "I'm not having sex, I'm just sucking his cock. People can't call me a slut if I'm not having sex.' Girls do that all the time, before they ever fuck a guy."
Is it always OK to go down on someone? Is there at least a dinner involved, somewhere along the line? No way, Jose. Heather says if a guy takes her out for dinner, he's not getting his helmet polished for dessert. Why? "Dinner means dating; dating means respect. No. It's going to be a little while before you give it up. Blow jobs happen during random hookups. They're dirty, so you do dirty things."
Britton says there's more of an "OK-ness" with oral sex today, an attitude that was never prevalent before. Technically, she says, "you can still be a virgin." You're not regarded as a prude or inexperienced, yet you're not thought of as easy or slutty. After all, "if the president does it, it's OK if they do, is the thinking," says Britton.
Of course, there are students out there not having any sex at all. Not only that, but some of the undergrads who do fornicate like floppy-eared rabbits are getting sick of the highly sexual scene.
"Now that I'm getting older, it's not like that," says Holly. "I want something more. Back in the day, it didn't matter. As a freshman, nobody cares. You're not looking for a relationship, because you know it won't last. You'll hang out with one dude, and things will be cheesy, and you'll move on to the next. Why? Because there's a million dudes out there. You're all living around each other, and you're all the same age, and you're all looking for the same thing."
"When you get over the novelty of college, you want someone to hang out with, who's more than just that kid you're seen around with," she continues. "Sometimes, I want something more meaningful than "let's hang out in my room, and we'll have sex and then hit the bars.'"
"It gets old," agrees Joanne, "especially when you know you're done with the whole party, drinking, sex, drugs, hangin' out thing. Some people never get over it. Some people never go through it. Your first year or two of college, it's new. A whole new world. You're buggin' out. But you do get over it."
*All students' names have been changed to ensure anonymity if, perchance, their parents read this.
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