Karrine Steffans, the video vixen formerly known as Superhead is back on the scene with a new book to be released in July.

The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce & Keep The Man You Want will hit your favorite book store on July 13. Already, it's selling pretty swiftly on Amazon.com.

In the book, Steffans offers women advice. If you know her sorted pass, sleeping with some of the biggest stars in hip-hop and R&B -- and then detailing it all in her previous books Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries -- you might ask yourself, what can she tell anyone?

A lot, actually.

In reading the advance copy of the manual, here are some of the gems of knowledge Steffans offers:

"Casual sex comes with an enormous amount of baggage, and I don't mean the adorable vintage Louis Vuitton trunk-set type."

"Having too much casual sex can result in a woman being worn out, and I'm talking literally, in this particular instance. . . And let's not even talk about what sex does to your nether regions. Don't lie ladies. We all know what "porn pussy" looks like."

"When you're the woman guys love bragging about having been with, you can never be comfortable about why men approach you."

And she says this about being that "independent woman" all the singers are making songs about these days:

"A man needs to feel needed. There has to be an opening, a place for him to fit. If we become so independent that we begin to act and talk as if we don't want or need a man at some point in our day and in our lives, no man will ever be there."

And Steffans encourages women to "woo" their man:

"Get into his head before you get into his bed."

"If the local gentleman's club intrigues your man, then don't try to stop him from going. Go with him! During those times when you wish he would just stay home with you instead of chasing his fantasy, turn things around. Become his fantasy. Bring the gentleman's club to him."

Of course, it wouldn't be a real Vixen manual if she didn't give advice about anal sex:

"First of all, anal sex is a huge commitment and something I feel should be saved for your husband. I mean seriously, do you really want a bunch of guys running around telling people they fucked you in the butt? I wish we felt the same way about vaginal and oral sex, but hey one cause at at time, I guess."

Steffans has reinvented herself and in this book she comes off a little judgmental. But I'm sure it's going to sell like hot cakes. Maybe she and Steve Harvey should write a book together.

Take a walk down memory lane with me.

Remember the days of courting over the telephone?

You know what I'm talking about.

The days when you "went together" but the only place you "went" was on the phone unless someone's parents dropped both of you off somewhere.

Or if you were real fast in the ass and then you managed to arrange a group outing or a group hangout at someone's house so you could at least cop a feel on each other.

Or if you had to, you wait until the school dance so you can press your bodies up against each other and perhaps get lost in each others eyes and make promises that you probably aren't even allowed to keep.

The days when neither one of you could drive so all you had was the phone calls to hold you until you could see each other in the hallways at school the next day.

Remember those nights when it was just you two on the phone, and you stayed up all night and half the conversation was just listening to each other breathe and then arguing over who's going to hang up first.

You hang up.

No you hang up.

No you first.

You get the point.

Remember the game "hide-n-go get it?" If you don't maybe you should play it as an adult — but I digress.

Or what about in the age of pagers when your boo told you to use Code 2 (for you rap fans, refer back to The Lost Boyz song "Renee") whenever you needed to see him.

Don't you wish things now were just as simple? I sure do.

But I don't have to remind you about how complex dating as an adult can be.

Now it’s all about a process of elimination for some and no one takes the time to get to know anyone. It's all about the "what can they do for me syndrome."

In 2009 for us grown folks it's all about texting, and instant messaging and emailing, and for you tech savvy or just freak-nasties turning the web cams on just to get a quick thrill.

Just think, if we could go back to those days of talking on the phone, holding hands and just being capturing the innocence and the process of getting to know each other and taking the time to "fall in like" how much easier things could be.

Then I woke up, back to reality. That ish won't work -- we're just all too triflin’ and set in our ways to change.

Hell, we're still playing the boys on one side of the room girls on the other game at grown folks parties.

Lesson Learned: Capturing the essence of the innocence of our teenage years won't solve our dating woes, but it may give you a chance to sit down and reflect on the ish you just don't take the time to do. Appreciate, embrace, and keep it simple without all the drama.