Friday, April 9, 2010

Sex Q&A: Charlotte H Club reaches out during STD awareness month

Posted By on Fri, Apr 9, 2010 at 4:39 PM

Charlotte H Club, a non profit group which supports people infected with herpes and the human papillomavirus, wants to raise awareness about these diseases during STD Awareness Month.

Sara from Charlotte H Club spoke with Creative Loafing.

Because herpes and HPV aren’t life threatening like HIV, Fraser said that often times the medical community doesn’t give people the information they need to treat or avoid the diseases.

What don’t people know about herpes and HPV?

Sara: We have a lot of people come into a meeting once they find out they have herpes or HPV and they say “I used a condom, how did this happen?” People don’t realize that herpes isn’t transferred through blood and it’s transferred through skin to skin contact. It infects the whole genital area and sometimes it’s not just the genital area. People who have had partners with cold sores perform oral sex and they get oral herpes, genitally. If you have it genitally it’s not as bad as herpes simplex 2, but you still have herpes.

Is the lack of information one of the reasons why it is so important to do outreach?

We want people to know what is going on. No one wants to have herpes or HPV. We want people to prepare and better educate themselves. We also want people to know that it’s not the end of the world [if you get herpes or HPV] and that we’re not whores that deserve to get the terrible diseases. We’re great people despite this little problem and people don’t need to be afraid or be disgusted and they don’t need to run away.

How does a person’s social life change once they are diagnosed with herpes or HPV?

Some people stop dating all together. They are afraid to have to tell someone. Some people have had what we refer to as the talk and they have had some horrible reactions. People telling them not to touch their things, like touching someone’s dishes is going to give them herpes and that just doesn’t happen. It is really terrible the way people react. A lot of people are anxiety ridden about having to tell someone they care about that they have herpes. The stigma is so great and the assumptions about the people who get herpes are so negative that people isolate themselves. They don’t want to be around anyone because they are afraid people will find out. Some members are even afraid they would lose their jobs because of misinformation and the stigma attached to having it.

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Today's Top(less) 5: Friday

Posted By on Fri, Apr 9, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 9, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

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• Rumba Charlotte at The Forum

• Sexy Undies party at The Estate

• Club Insomnia at The Gold Club

• Charlotte's Happiest Happy Hour at Uptown Cabaret

• Flirtatious Friday at Tempo

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Thursday, April 8, 2010

The ‘prostitution exclusion zone’ — five years later

Posted By on Thu, Apr 8, 2010 at 2:09 PM

About five years ago, the Camp Greene neighborhood was known for prostitution and other seedy crimes. Hookers and johns didn’t try to hide their illicit activity and residents were left trapped inside as condoms littered their yards because of what had gone on in the overnight hours.

Brian Fincher, president of the Camp Greene Neighborhood Association, said he’s been in the area for 12 years and remembers going home and getting flashed and solicited every day. “It was a daily battle …” he said of the prostitutes and pimps who took up residence. “There were a lot of elderly people over here in the neighborhood who were scared.”

Sgt. Spencer Cochran, of CMPD’s Metro division, recalls getting phone calls from people about finding used condoms at the bus stops in the mornings, streets stained with urine and feces and doors slamming all hours of the night because of prostitution in Camp Greene. As a result, Charlotte Mecklenburg Police studied the problem and came up with a solution: the prostitution exclusion zone. And Metro division Capt. Bruce Bellamy said that neighborhood today is nothing like it was when the zone was set up.

“It’s night and day from what it used to be,” said Bellamy. “I hear this all the time from the community. The way it was out in the open is nonexistent in that area. In the past, you would just turn down the corner and there would be girls lined up, all out in the street and stuff.”

Fincher said that now when you go down the streets of the neighborhood, you see residents out walking their dogs, working in their yards and planting flowers without fear.

The zone works in this way, Bellamy explained: If you are arrested in the prostitution exclusion zone — which encompasses Camp Greene Street, Freedom Drive, Morehead Street and Wilkinson Boulevard — for soliciting a crime against nature then you are pretty much banned from that area. “It’s like a territorial restriction,” he said.

And this restricted area is about more than just arresting prostitutes then turning them back on the street. Bellamy said when the police department has gone into the neighborhood to do sweeps, they partnered with social agencies like the McLeod Foundation and the Mecklenburg County Health Department to offer assistance to the sex workers arrested. “We try to give them some encouragement and help them get off the street,” he said about the partnership with the social agencies.

“Are there any girls still working?” Cochran asked. “Maybe one or two. We haven’t arrested any recently in Camp Greene. Those 90 to 100 girls that were in that neighborhood aren’t there anymore.”

After being arrested in the prostitution exclusion zone, the arrestee — either a john or a prostitute — can’t return to that area for a year. The exceptions are, said Cochran, if they live in that area or have legal business over there. Following the arrest, the person has to carry a form that details what they were arrested for. If they’re caught in the zone without it, Cochran said they can automatically be arrested again and then completely banned from the neighborhood. “After that year was up, we thought, we were going to have them come flooding back, but they didn’t,” he said.

As far as the johns go, Cochran said it’s rare that they find repeat offenders in the exclusion zone. Once they get that first arrest, they don’t return, which also helped in cleaning up Camp Greene.

“We had to stand up and take the neighborhood back,” Fincher said. “There were a lot of people sick of what was going on over here. If the drug dealers and the prostitutes go to a neighborhood where the neighbors don’t care, they are going to do what they want to do. We stopped letting them do what they want to do.”

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Today's Top(less) 5: Thursday

Posted By on Thu, Apr 8, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 8, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

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Alive After Five

• Champagne Thursday at Club Onyx

• Kick ass lunch at The Men's Club

• Couples Welcome at The Gentlemen's Club

• SOJA at The Visulite

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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Today's Top(less) 5: Wednesday

Posted By on Wed, Apr 7, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 7, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

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• Pure Wednesday at Halo

• Karaoke Madness at Loft 1523

• Ladies Night Line Dancing at Coyote Joes

• No Cover Wednesday at Club Onyx

• Wet Wednesday at Leather and Lace SouthEnd

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Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Today's Top(less) 5: Tuesday

Posted By on Tue, Apr 6, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 6, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

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•  Power Yoga at Dharma Lounge

• $2 Tuesday at Club Onyx

• Tempted Tuesdays at TILT

• Spring Beach Party at Whisky River

• Poker Night at The Gold Club

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Monday, April 5, 2010

Today's Top (less) 5: Monday

Posted By on Mon, Apr 5, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 5, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

• Chubby's Karaoke at Dixie's

• SIN at Club Onyx

• Check out the Wet Pussy at Leather and Lace University

• Manic Monday at Dilworth Billiards

• $10 buckets at Strike City

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Friday, April 2, 2010

Sexual harassment allegation a wake up call

Posted By on Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 10:32 AM

There may be a woman investigating the sexual harassment claim against a Charlotte City Council member, but a local women’s rights activist is shocked that such an investigation is needed.

Not at the sexual harassment allegation itself, but Charlotte’s National Organization of Women coordinator Cindy Thomson said she’s surprised that the city didn’t have a policy dealing with sexual harassment and elected officials.

“This is a real wake up call for all boards and any body that has any sort of power over other people,” she said. “There should be some sort of policy in place. They sign confidentiality policies on many boards, but not anything about sexual harassment.”

Since March 14, when Mayor Anthony Foxx sent an e-mail to city council members reminding then not to sexually harass staff members, questions and accusations have flown through the council chambers.

According to a Charlotte Observer report on March 24, Warren Turner, who represents west Charlotte, is the councilmember who was accused of harassment. Turner denied any wrong doing.

The complainant hasn’t been named publicly and Thomson said in cases like this, the victim’s privacy has to be protected.

“We need to think of that individual and what she needs,” Thomson said. “It’s a legal issue and it has to be resolved.”

And she added that a clear policy about sexual harassment dealing with public officials should have been put in place years ago.

“When someone on a board signs something agreeing to or not to do something it drives it home a little better and makes it clear what is appropriate and what’s not. It is surprising that our city council did not have a policy in place. I know that the city has a [sexual harassment] policy. I would imagine that this individual who is charging sexual harassment couldn’t file anything because there wasn’t a policy in place. A person with power over another person, there has to be some sort of recourse.”

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Today's Top(less) 5: Friday

Posted By on Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 6:30 AM

Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, April 2, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.

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• Bunny Bash at The Estate

• EpiCenter Bunny Hop at Suite

• DJ Jazzy Jimmy at Dixie's Tavern

• Flirtatious Fridays at Tempo

• After hours party at The Men's Club

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Thursday, April 1, 2010

Sex Q&A: Sending him flowers

Posted By on Thu, Apr 1, 2010 at 10:56 AM

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Raymond, the owner of Colonial Florists of Charlotte, located on Sharon Amity Road, knows that he's going to see a lot of men come into his shop on Valentine's Day to send roses and other arrangements to their lady loves. But he's noticed another trend, women sending flowers to their men. You'd think a man wouldn't want flowers, but ladies, you know that feeling you get when a bouquet arrives at your job. Men feel the same way.

Creative Loafing: What kind of flowers are women sending to men?

Raymond: They send roses. That's basically what they send. When they come in, they usually have their mind made up as to what they want to send.

When did you first notice more women sending flowers to their men?

It's been a few years now. It sure has. Mostly during Valentine's it's more of the men sending flowers to women. But during the year, it's mostly women sending flowers.

During the spring months, what are the most popular flower choices?

The mix cuts, which are a little bit of everything in it.

So, ladies, don't be afraid to send that man a dozen roses. There's no telling how he will thank you for it when he gets home.

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