The Today Show reported that divorce lawyers are saying that Facebook is a marriage killer. I guess any excuse will do these days when it comes to infidelity.

Unless the other man or woman is named Facebook, there's no way you can blame the Internet for someone being a cheating douche.

Divorces can get ugly, and now more and more of these cases include incriminating evidence captured on social media sites, at least for one Florida lawyer who says she sees "some type of Facebook involvement" in 90 percent of her divorce cases.

St. Petersburg attorney Carin Constantine talked to a local TV station, WTSP, and seemed to reinforce the notion that Facebook is a marriage killer.

In the interview, she mentions clients who have pointed her to pictures of their misbehaving ex-spouses-to-be on Facebook, including examples of husbands caught dancing with babysitters and others serving alcohol to minors. Then she prints the images and attaches them to legal motions. Constantine does the same with photos she finds on Google Images.

How can you blame Facebook for people being dumb enough to not only take pictures of their bad behavior, but post it online? Hell, some of the stuff I do with my partner would land me in jail if the pictures or videos ever got out.

It wasn't long ago that the 1,600-member American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (a strange name for a group focusing on the opposite of marital bliss) cited a survey that linked Facebook to one in five divorces, with 81 percent of those lawyers saying that social media is the new affair hotbed. And the hottest zone is Facebook, with 66 percent of those AAML sources mentioning it specifically for evidence of marital discord and misconduct.

And then there is the camp that feels that like any tool, Facebook can be used for good or evil, but in itself is not to blame for people cheating on their spouses or publicizing things they do that others shouldn't know. After all, for many practicing fidelity in their daily lives, it's an innocent and effective means of keeping in touch with far-flung family members and friends.

This comment from a New York Daily News reader sums it up:

Here we go ... blame Facebook. People are going to communicate on whatever is out there to do their dirt. I never heard of putting Crane, Inc. on trial because people were sending love letters during their extramarital affairs using paper. They've been doing it since papyrus was invented. It's not the Facebook application's fault. It's how people use it as a tool. Either you use technology to benefit yourself, your family, and the planet, or you use it to destroy things. Simple as that.

There's nothing bigger when it comes to colleges than the athletes. They're the stars you attend class with, especially if you attend a college like Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, N.C.

But according to a report that will air on the Today Show, it seems that some Wake basketball players  may have gotten away with rape.

According to the National Coalition Against Violent Athletes, the former student will talk about a rape that was allegedly committed by two Wake Forest basketball players. The Winston-Salem Journal identified the players as Gary Clark and Jeff Teague.

Clark, a 6-foot-4 guard from Sarasota, Fla., graduated from Wake Forest this spring. Teague, a 6-foot-2 guard from Indianapolis, Ind., left Wake Forest in 2009 after declaring early for the NBA Draft. He spent two seasons with the Demon Deacons.

Hatch did not state in his letter that a student-athlete was involved.

The Winston-Salem Journal reported the alleged incident happened in the players' hotel room on Mar. 19, 2009, in Miami, Fla., the day before the Wake Forest basketball team took on Cleveland State in the first round of the NCAA Men's Basketball Tournament.

According to the report in the Winston-Salem Journal, the alleged victim accused Clark of forcing her to have oral sex with him while Teague stood outside the door. She filed a complaint with police in North Carolina and in Florida, but due to the lack of physical evidence and the fact that the players alleged the oral sex was consensual, no charges were filed.

"I am aware that some members of the local news media have received an email purporting to provide information about that incident," Hatch wrote. "I have also recently learned that this same email may have been circulated more broadly, and some members of our Wake Forest community may have received it in their personal email accounts."

One in five college women has been raped at some point in her lifetime, according to One in Four, a national rape prevention organization. But when a sexual assault involves a college jock, he usually walks, according to a USA TODAY article.

Brian Edmonds, James Crawford

Virginia Tech football

They were accused of raping a female student in their apartment in 1996 and were indicted on rape and attempted sodomy charges. Each conceded that the prosecution had enough evidence to convict them of attempted aggravated sexual battery, but did not admit guilt. Each received a one-year suspended sentence.

No wonder the victim waited. She probably knew the outcome. The segment is expected to air at 7:45 a.m. on Thursday.

A former CVS manager from Gastonia will spend the next decade in federal prison after arranging to go have sex with kids in Georgia over the Internet.

Christopher Carroll was the manager at CVS pharmacy in Gastonia in October 2010 when he drove to Georgia. He had previously responded to an online posting from a father of a 12-year-old and a 3-year-old. The father was actually an FBI agent patrolling the Internet looking for sexual predators.

Carroll emailed with the agent on several occasions and had a phone conversation in which he described what he planned to do to the children, accord-ing to a press release from the FBI.

During the correspondence, Carroll proposed that the father of the children watch while he participated in sex acts with the boys. Carroll also boasted about molesting a 5-month-old nephew and discussed filming sexual encounters with minors, according to the press release.

The year 2010 marked seven years of the FBI's Innocence Lost Cross Country operation. Though more people are being caught and convicted of sexual exploitation of children, the sad fact remains that people seek children for sex.

Each year, the statistics become more numerous and more sobering.With a network of agencies from 40 cities across the United States, the FBI, its local and state law enforcement partners, and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) conducted an annual investigation and three-day sting to find children who are forced into prostitution and the perpetrators who use and abuse them. For November 5-7, 2010, 69 children were recovered and 885 persons were arrested on state and local charges, 99 of whom are pimps.

How do communities protect their children? Parents have to do a better job of monitoring their young sons and daughters online, especially on social media sites, where everyone instantly becomes your friend.

Teenagers are particularly at risk because they often use the computer unsupervised and are more likely than younger children to participate in online discussions regarding companionship, relationships, or sexual activity. A child might provide information or arrange an encounter that could risk his or her safety or the safety of other family members. Predators have used E-mail, instant messages, bulletin boards, and chat areas to gain a child's confidence and then arrange a face-to-face meeting. This sometimes leads to the child traveling to meet the person he or she is chatting with or the person traveling to meet the child.

Asheville is a cool North Carolina city, and the fact that a city councilman, Gordon Smith, decided to "encourage all committed same-sex couples to register" on that city's new Domestic Partner Registry, proves that our state isn't simply filled with closed-minded bigots. Too bad Mecklenburg County doesn't and would probably never would have this kind of policy or politician.

On Feb. 22, City Council authorized the creation of a Domestic Partner Registry to recognize same-sex relationships.

The registry becomes effective May 2 and will provide a mechanism through which hospitals, businesses, and other entities will have the opportunity to recognize these relationships.

The registry will be administered by the City Clerk’s Office. A $45 fee is required and should be paid at offices on the first floor of City Hall, located at 70 Court Plaza (in the same offices where water bills are paid).

After payment of the $45 fee, applicants must bring the receipt to the City Clerk’s Office, located in room 202 on the second floor of City Hall. Both applicants must be present and must show a driver’s license or other valid form of photo identification.

Both parties will sign an affidavit, which is a public record.

While Mecklenburg County began offering domestic partner benefits this year, it didn't come without some rabble rousing from Commissioner Bill James — who seemingly hates everything that's not white, male and straight.

Commissioner Roberts' position is that 'taxpayers' aren't paying a dime because they are going to add a surcharge to everyone else's premium. There are roughly 5,000 employees and 1,200 retirees. We (the county) pay the insurance for employees (except for a small amount). If everyone (including employees) have their rates raised then there would be some amount of tax dollars going to subsidize this," James said.

In meeting about the benefits, James went as far a to question the legality of offering them. He contends — and has for years — that being gay is a crime.

"Homosexuals are sexual predators,” James wrote in one email.

And who could forget this gem?

“Like a whore in church, homosexuals have been on their best behavior because that behavior was illegal and they didn’t want to risk being kicked out …

“I can hear liberals screaming into their monitors: ‘They aren’t predators!’

“I disagree. Go down to the Dowd YMCA and let them show you the ‘red phone’. They had to put it in to stop homosexuals from ogling straight business men in the showers and changing rooms.”

We may be the biggest county and city in the state, but Mecklenburg County has a long way to go to catch up to a city like Asheville when it comes to equality.

Condom maker LifeStyles released the results of its Sexual Satisfaction Survey on Tuesday. Surprisingly, the company says more people are faithful and satisfied with their sex lives. Really?

The LifeStyles Condoms Sexual Satisfaction Survey unveils discoveries regarding sexual satisfaction, including information about numbers of sexual partners, favorite positions, condom use, infidelity, fantasies, preferences and more. Some key findings from the survey showed that:

Condom Fit is Key: 41% of male respondents feel that their condoms don't fit well, which signals a need for a new education about condom variety - as improper fit can lead to breakage and slippage, and ultimately the spread of STI's or unwanted pregnancy.

Fidelity is Commonplace: More than three-quarters of respondents (77%) have never cheated on their significant other, and the same number still wouldn't cheat, even if they knew they wouldn't get caught.

Satisfaction is Achievable: The vast majority of respondents (90%) reported that they are satisfied with their sex lives.

This is good to hear, but you have to wonder if North Carolina was consulted in this survey. According to the Centers For Disease Control and Prevention, in 2009 North Carolina was among the top 10 states for AIDS diagnosis.

Nineteen-year-old Joshua Esskew was beaten outside of a Rock Hill gas station because he's gay. Now, five men could (and, if they are guilty, should) face federal charges in the attack.

Why? Because, according to The Charlotte Observer, while Esskew was being beaten one of the men yelled out a gay slur.

Esskew told the (Rock Hill) Herald that the confrontation started when a man in front of the store yelled a gay slur at him. He told reporters the attack "was a hate crime."

Charged in the crime are:

Cortezio Laquise Douglas, 21; Lortarius Anthony Duncan, 22; LaJames Mitchell, 22; Darenco Markie Wilmore, 21; and Bobby Wilson, 20.

The sheriff's offices says investigators determined that after an argument between Esskew and a man standing in front of the convenience store, a man later identified as Wilson struck Esskew in the back of the head with a bottle. When Esskew attempted to confront Wilson, the sheriff's office says, the other men joined the fight.

Despite the fact that the enhancements are there to warrant hate crime designation, we are talking about South Carolina, a state not always known for tolerance.

In the twenty-first century, flying the Confederate flag, a symbol of secession, racism, and slavery, is unacceptable and un-American.

South Carolina is going to cut its entire HIV/AIDS budget. Tough times call for tough measures, especially against gay people, I guess…

South Carolina has been the center of hate, homophobia, racism, in short, Republicanism, for four centuries.

York County had to call in the feds because, surprise, surprise, South Carolina has no hate crime legislation on the books.

South Carolina has no “hate crime” laws, but the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, enacted in 2009, gives federal authorities power to investigate allegations of crimes against gays that could potentially be civil rights violations.

HPV, aka Human Papillomavirus, usually impacts young woman, but new studies are showing that HPV can cause cancer in men who engage in oral sex, especially with multiple women. The cases are starting to hit epidemic status, doctors say.

HPV is passed through skin-to-skin contact, not fluids. Besides conventional sex, oral sex and even deep French kissing may spread the virus.

Doctors are sounding the alarm, but have stopped short of advising men to abstain.

"This is not a call to stop having oral sex," said Dr. Mark D. DeLacure, a head and neck surgeon at NYU's Langone Medical Center. "People have to continue living their lives, however we make the best choices when we know all the risks."

Doctors also have this advice: Don't panic.

Patients with HPV – even the cancer-causing strain – may never develop cancer and may never transmit the virus to a partner.

The vast majority of individuals have immune systems that recognize the virus as a threat, and easily defeat it.

Doctors instead recommend vigilance.

The important issue is persistence – meaning attention to how long an unusual symptom like a lump has lasted. When an abnormality persists for longer than 14 to 21 days, it's time to see an expert.

"If you've got a sore tonsil that is still a problem after a couple of weeks, and particularly if it's localized to one side, I would say that's sign it's time to talk to a doctor," said DeLacure.

And talk to the person who sees your mouth the most: Your dentist.

Dentists, too, are becoming more aware of HPV and its role in the development of oral cancer.

A good dentist will know what to look for and where to look for it.

All of those potions and powders that you can buy at a specialty shop may be good for getting things popping in the bedroom. But, you could be wasting your time and money. New research recently published online in the journal Food Research International finds that ginseng and saffron are key to spicing up your sex life.

Many of the foods researchers tested are available in supermarkets or specialty food stores. With potential sexual satisfaction just a grocery aisle away, says Massimo Marcone, a professor in Guelph's Department of Food Science, “people may be inclined to try common spices such as ginseng, saffron and nutmeg, and there is no harm in doing so.”

Aphrodisiacs are appealing because they can theoretically enhance performance and libido without unwanted side effects from synthetic preparations. Blockbuster erectile dysfunction drugs Viagra and Cialis don't address libido and may cause headache, muscle pain and blurred vision; their use along with other medications can be contraindicated.

Not a bad trade off when a recent study of some drugs, like Propecia, found that some block your libido.

The medication carries a warning about persistent sexual dysfunction, along with potential psychological problems, in the U.K. and Sweden. But U.S. labeling doesn't contain such warnings.

So, if you cook dinner tonight, don't forget the saffron rice.

It seems that our government wants to get between our legs ... or at least control who goes down there.

The GOP wants to defund Planned Parenthood and the Democrats won't back down on continuing to fund the program [and they shouldn't].

“Republicans want to shut down our nation’s government because they want to make it harder for women to get the health services they need,” Democratic Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid said on the floor Friday. “This is indefensible and everyone should be outraged — men and women should be outraged.”

Both sides have gone to the mat over the issue, with pro-lifers arguing that Planned Parenthood is an abortion factory and pro-choicers pointing to the health-care aspects of Planned Parenthood’s mission.

These are the same people who you find protesting outside of abortion clinics without knowing why a woman has made this decision. These are the same people who don't know that Planned Parenthood is often the only medical help a woman can afford.

The group, which receives approximately $350 million in federal funding annually, has been advertising extensively about its good works. In a new video, actress Scarlett Johansson makes the case for Planned Parenthood’s importance. To Johansson, it is all about women’s health.

“A cancer that goes undetected, a sexually transmitted disease left untreated, a woman unable to get the birth control she needs to plan her family and take control of her own destiny,” she says. “This is the disastrous vision of some leaders in the United States House of Representatives,” she charges, citing the millions of women who get health care from the group.

Maybe the government should look at what's really wrong with this nation — three wars and massive debt should keep them busy ... while women get an annual pelvic exam.