Greetings everyone, today Im going to define a term I get asked about quite often; a term that can be different things to different people. I'm talking about a "big dog." Ask 50 people what a "big dog" is and you may get 50 different answers. This is my definition of a big dog, and what it takes to be one.
First, the definition of a big dog is the quintessential complete man: a provider, protector and lover who is well-grounded, ambitious, focused and loyal. He is the person you want your son to grow up to be, or your daughter to marry. Hes who your parents either hoped theyd raised, or you married. He is always in control, and he is always on top of his game. He isnt satisfied being in the game. He wants to win. He doesnt just want to be on the team, he want to be the go-to guy. The big dog is the alpha male, and he knows it. Moderation isnt his calling card. He is a man of status, and image is everything to him.
To become a Big Dog, I think one should first meet these pre-requisites. This is just to get started. Let me reiterate, this is my opinion. You may have another all together, (OK, CC?), and thats fine.
Big Dog Requirements
1. Relationship with God - I dont think it is possible to be a true success in anything without God being involved. He is the foundation of success, and without Him, failure is eminent.
2. Great relationship with his family. Especially his mother.
3. Respect in the community. A big dog gives back. He tries to bring people along as he comes up. Hes blessed to be a blessing.
4. A career, not just a job- you cannot be a big dog without a career. You may have been recently laid off or lost your job. Thats temporary. Im talking about the loser that never keeps a job, or is happy ONLY flipping burgers.
5. His own place. You are not a big dog if you have roommates. Your lady shouldnt worry about your roommate coming in and ruining your romantic dinner. And you sure as heck cant be living off your mama!!
6. His own ride. If you cant pick up your lady in your OWN vehicle, wait until you can.
7. Financial stability. You cannot be a big dog if youre paying for dinner with your mortgage money.
8. Lawn care guy. Big dogs are too busy to cut grass. Their schedules dont allow for that. When they get off time, they want to rest. If you cut grass and consider yourself a big dog, you better own the company.
9. Nice accessories. You should have at least 2 expensive Swiss watches. If your ears are pierced; 1ct minimum for the diamond stud. (Platinum settings are a plus)
10. Personal tailor. If you answer the question, Who made your suit? with the name of a department store, you are NOT a big dog. Big dogs have a guy to handle that. They dont have time to go shopping. They are too busy making decisions. They have someone come in and handle that.
Now before you start sending me hate mail, because you just realized youre not a Big Dog, get over it. This is just my opinion. If you think youre a big dog, just make sure you can substantiate it. Just calling yourself a big dog doesnt make you one. You notice I didnt say anything about cars. Cars lose value the moment you title them. Big dogs invest in their futures. You can have an inexpensive car, and still be a big dog. There are very few cars that maintain full value or increase. A Ferrari is one of them.
I myself am not a big dog, though I meet most of these requirements, I still have a long ways to go to be a Big Dog. Will I ever get there? Who knows, but Im gonna have fun trying. Its also not my place to decide if youre a big dog or not. In fact, if you need my approval to be a big dog, you will never be one. I dont define you. At the end of the day, if you believe in the Lord, handle your responsibilities, treat people well, respect your lady and dont hit her, take care of your kids, strive to be great, give back to the community, and try your best to be the best person you can be, you are ALREADY a big dog. So have fun, Big Dog. Until next time
William Wilson is a nationally respected mens clothier and image consultant. His clients include professional athletes, CEOs, and corporations. His homepage is www.WilliamtheClothier.com. Follow William on Twitter: www.Twitter.com/theclothier or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/williamtheclothier.