Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Monogamy is overrated ... or is it?

Posted By on Wed, Oct 28, 2009 at 11:38 AM

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No one stays faithful any more and everyone is upset about it, especially if you read the press. (Myself excluded, thank you very much.)

So when I saw this article on CNN's website about monogamy, I realized that I don't believe in monogamy either.

It's not natural. And now I have written back up.

French author Jacques Attali in recent years wrote, "Monogamy, which is really no more than a useful social convention, will not survive. It has rarely been honored in practice; soon, it will vanish even as an ideal."

Americans get so mad and upset when a "star" cheats. But we're the same sappy public that urges our friends and neighbors to stay with their lying ass husband, for the sake of the kids or whatever reason people give. (Sally says leave or stay, just don't whine about it and become a victim.)

No.

If he can't be monogamous, then why should you be? If you really want to be with him or her then why not do this:

Polyamory -- the practice of having romantic relationships with multiple people at the same time with the full knowledge and consent of all involved -- has been getting a lot of attention.

"We found the expectation that one person should be our everything seemed unrealistic given our day and age. ... It's oddly pressuring to set up that scenario," said Mark, who lives in Springfield, Missouri, and is in a polyamorous relationship. (He asked that his last name not be used for privacy reasons.)

Mark, 42, has been married for five years. He and his wife tried different things to spice up their marriage, including swinging, or having casual sex with other people, he said. But they found the experience unfulfilling and decided what they really wanted was to be able to fall in love with others while staying together.

Mark dates another woman, and his wife, who declined to be interviewed for this article, is dating another man. The four of them frequently get together to have dinner or watch movies.

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