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Wednesday, June 30, 2010
feature Friends with an 'ex' on Facebook? Why?
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Wed, Jun 30, 2010 at 1:48 PM
Mama always said he/she is an ex for a reason, but in this social media world we live in these days, is an "ex" also a Facebook friend?
One camp says you should remain friends on social media:
You might not want to have anything to do with the guy now, but it's likely that your bitter feelings will subside in time. A birthdaywish or a friendly wall post may be in order at some point in the future. Resist the temptation to defriend and simply hide his stories from popping up in your news feed.
Another camp says you shouldn't remain friends:
A Facebook de-friending from a recent ex may seem like a slap in the face, but it’s really quite healthy for both parties.If you actually meant that line about still being friends, Facebook defriending may help you create the space you need to become comfortable on your new footing. You may refriend him the future, when time has passed and you’re both ready to reconnect; but until then, you don’t have to be reminded of him whenever you see his status updates. Also, you won’t have to read sickly-sweet wall chatter between him and his new girl, and you won’t be reminded when he goes back to your favorite brunch spot. Even after a mutual decision to split, reading a feed of your ex’s daily life and thoughts can be unpleasant.
Of course, I have to wonder: When did it become cool to have social media relationships? For the sake of your other friends on Facebook, please keep the details of your happy relationship and/or dirty breakup to yourself.
Plus, if you’re inclined to bittersweet obsessive page-checking and wall reading, you’ll be saving yourself hours of agonizing over what your ex really meant by that innocuous status update.If your breakup wasn’t an amiable parting of the ways, defriending draws a clear line of separation between you and Mr. Horribly Wrong. If he does leave nasty status updates or notes, you won’t have to see them and be drawn into a tacky battle.
After all, Facebook doesn't give us the right to act like children, even though many people do. Just remember why you broke up and that Facebook is supposed to be for friends. I can't think of one ex that I consider a friend. Because, like mama said, he/she is an "ex" for a reason.
Today’s Top(less) 5 Today's Top(less) 5: Wednesday
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Wed, Jun 30, 2010 at 6:30 AM
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, June 30, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
• Salsa Social at World Dance Center
• Pure Wednesday at Halo . . . The Ms. Halo search
• No Cover Wednesday at Club Onyx
• Wet Wednesday at Leather and Lace SouthEnd
• All You Can Eat at The Men's Club
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Video Who knew there was a country sex anthem?
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Tue, Jun 29, 2010 at 3:21 PM
Today’s Top(less) 5 Today's Top(less) 5: Tuesday
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Tue, Jun 29, 2010 at 6:30 AM
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, June 29, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
• Trivia Tuesday at Black Bear Saloon
• $15 Massages at Day Break Massage Center
• $2 Tuesday at Club Onyx
• Poker Night at The Gold Club
• Snooki at Whisky River
Monday, June 28, 2010
Lustworthy / feature A WTF moment in South Carolina
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Mon, Jun 28, 2010 at 4:12 PM
This past weekend, I headed south down I-85 to Georgia for some resting and relaxing. On the way to the Peach State, a billboard in South Carolina caught my eye. It was at Exit 100 in Cherokee County advertising Bedtyme Stories, an adult store. You know, my kind of place. On the advertisement there was a sexy lady in an animal print bra and garter belt with hose and some CFM pumps.
I wanted it. I told my companion, "We're so stopping there on the way back to Charlotte."
Of course, I got no arguments. So, Saturday evening, we were on our way back to the Q.C. and made the stop. Now, I've been to interstate adult stores before, and they are usually dark, gritty and kind of scary. This place, though, was well lit. The shop also featured a nice selection of toys and lingerie, but something was missing ... and I couldn't put my finger on it as I walked around the store. Then we headed for the DVD section. Looking through the porn, I saw a cover that grabbed my attention for all the wrong reasons. It wasn't the title or the actress on the front that made me take notice; it was because it said "Cable."
"Cable?" I thought. "What is this like the stuff they show at night on Showtime and Cinemax (aka Skin-emax)?" As I looked at the movies, I saw ALL of them had the cable stickers. How does hardcore porn get a made-for-TV version? As I walked up to the register to pay for the item that I'd purchased, I was surprised to see a Love Machine behind the counter. The two cashiers were very nice, so I asked them, "What is 'cable' porn?"
The male cashier said, "They show almost everything except penetration. We can't sell those movies here or bondage equipment."
I snapped my fingers, "That's what's missing."
"Yep," said the female cashier, "no whips or chains or blindfolds."
I turned to my companion and shook my head. "And," the male cashier said. "We had to get stripper licenses to work here."
"Are you kidding me?" I asked incredulously. "First of all, why do you need a stripper license? "
"County rules," the female cashier said. "And it's not like we're taking our clothes off."
"It's crazy," the male cashier said as he handed my my merchandise.
Only in South Carolina, I thought as I smiled. As me and my companion headed out the door, I was tapped on my shoulder. "What?" I asked.
"Did you notice the Love Machine behind the register? They can't sell real porn, but they can sell a Love Machine?"
All I could do was laugh.
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Today’s Top(less) 5 Today's Top(less) 5: Monday
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Mon, Jun 28, 2010 at 6:30 AM
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, June 28, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
• Monday Night All-Stars at Double Door Inn
• SIN Monday at Club Onyx
• College Night at The Gold Club
• All You Can Bowl Monday at Strike City
• MacBeth at The Duke Energy Theater
Friday, June 25, 2010
Today’s Top(less) 5 Today's Top(less) 5: Friday
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Fri, Jun 25, 2010 at 6:30 AM
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, June 25, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
• Switch at The Men's Club
• Celebrate the Full Moon at The Estate
• 13th Anniversary Comedy Gzam at The Omega House
• Club Insomnia at The Gold Club
• Summer Kick-Off at Whisky River
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Interviews Sex Q&A: Coretta Livingstone has the key to unlocking your love, sorta
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Thu, Jun 24, 2010 at 5:05 PM
Looking for love but tired of going to same Uptown clubs fighting with the bumping bass line to talk to that cutie you met at the bar? And have you had it with speed dating because there's never enough [or too much] of the opposite sex and not a good chance of making a connection?
If that's how you feel, then here's an event for you. Tonight Coretta Livingstone, also known as the QC Info Broker, and Kevan Glover are hosting a Lock and Key Affair, starting at 7 p.m. Unlike other Lock and Key Parties, this one won't be held at a club and there won't even be a DJ.
Creative Loafing: What is a Lock and Key party?
Coretta Livingstone: Well, I used to do speed dating, and I always used to get more women than men. I did some research and found that the ratio to women and men in Charlotte is about 20 to 1. And I found the people have a harder time coming out when they know they're going to be cornered into a speed dating situation. I saw the lock and key events and I decided to make it more fun. People come out to socialize, network and the possibility of a relationship. What happens is all the ladies get a lock and the men get a key. It makes the guys and girls a little less hesitant to go up and approach someone. Anytime someone gets a match [when the guy's key fits the woman's lock], I give out a prize. The idea is to find that one person and you talk all night. But if you want to toss your key or your lock back and find someone else to talk to, you can do that too.
Where is tonight's party?
We're doing it at Talent Link [2901 North Davidson St., Suite 131] rather than a club. That way, people who don't go to clubs can participate. People still want to meet other people whether they go to church, and not really into the clubbing type life. So this gives them an opportunity to come to a place that is a little more neutral. Talent Link is a place where that is set up real cute. There's a little area with couches, there are candles all through it. And there's a kitchen so we're able to have a place where we can keep our food nice and warm. It's almost like hosting people at your house. It's very comfortable to entertain people.
How is lock and key different from speed dating?
With the speed dating, all of the ladies are going to come in and sit down at one table and the guys are going to go from table to table and it's almost like you have to talk to every person. With the lock and key, you get to select who you want to talk to and who you don't want to talk to. Even with the lock and key, if I sit you across from John and he's not that appealing to you, you don't have to talk to him for three to seven minutes trying to have a conversation that you don't want to have. I make the announcement the beginning, ladies you have a lock, men you have a key. You walk up to them and ask if I can see if your key fits my lock. That gives you a chance to make a connection and keep that conversation going. You can be in the room with the lock and key and you're not obligated to talk to just one person.
Are tickets still available?
Yes, tickets are still available or you can just show up. We try to have an even number of men and women. So far, we have 37 people signed up.
What else is going on at the event tonight?
We have free mini spa services from 7 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Today’s Top(less) 5 Today's Top(less) 5: Thursday
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Thu, Jun 24, 2010 at 6:30 AM
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, June 24, 2010 — as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
• Champagne Thursday at Club Onyx
• I Love NY DJ series at Butter
• Kick Ass Lunch at The Men's Club
• Champagne Room available at The Gentlemen's Club
• 2 for 1 VIP dances at The Carousel
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Lustworthy Has the heat wave cooled your sex life?
Posted By Mustang Sally, Mayor of Bang Town on Wed, Jun 23, 2010 at 5:25 PM
Hey Charlotte, it is hot outside.
How hot is it?
Too hot for sex. Umm, maybe not.
If you're hot — like, temperature hot — but horny, you can still enjoy some sex with your partner without worrying about a heat stroke.
Sex in the water does away with the whole concern about sweat and heat. In the shower, in the tub, a pool, the ocean...you get the idea! Blasting the air conditioning in one room just prior to bedtime is another way to go. It may be 80 degrees everywhere else, but for an hour it can be 70 degrees wherever you plan to make whoopee.
Still too hot? Pull out some ice. There's a scene in Spike Lee's Do The Right Thing that shows ice does more than keep your water cool and tasty. The key to having good sex in a heatwave is pretty simple — stay hydrated.
Cooling off is not a problem if your body is healthy. You must keep your body hydrated and keep drinking water at all times. It not only helps keep your body healthy but also improves your sex life. You don’t feel tired and it keeps your body feeling cool. This will also keep you in the mood for sex.
With all this heat, if you have kids, they aren't playing outside these day — meaning you're going to have to sneak a freak. It's time to play hide and seek.
Or better yet, send your kids to grandma's for a few hours and take in a movie with your mate. When you get there, where it is sure to be cold, do this:
A movie date with your partner is a simple but effective way or rekindling romance in the summer months. It’s not necessary that you watch the movie in a theatre. You could even watch a movie at home. Whatever the case, keep it simple. If it’s the movie hall, you can hold hands and steal a kiss or two. If you are of an adventurous bent of mind you could kiss or massage those erogenous zones of your partner. You both would be dying to go to the bedroom by the end of the movie!
And when you get home, try this cooling position. It's not energy efficient, but you both will get off and be cool:
In front of the fridge: Kitchen carnal action may be nothing new to you, but the icebox might be uncharted territory. Open the door to the refrigerator and have your man sit on the floor with his back against the cool shelves. Then straddle him. Not only will the cold air give you both a thrill (you'll surely perk up!), but you can also incorporate food into your frisky play.
Don't let the summer heat wilt your sex life. But don't have a heat stroke either.
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