I need help finding a good one. I tend to chase the bad ones.
Said by any of my girlfriends, this would come as no surprise, as women tend to have this one thing in common. As a former member of Dramaholics Anonymous, I was well versed in the bad ones. Potheads, compulsive liars, cheaters those were my addiction and now, thankfully, part of a very distant past.
But this particular morsel of honesty came via e-mail from a high-school acquaintance who just happened to be one of those most attractive guys at my school and clearly wasnt having any problems in that department in adulthood.
After joking that we may be two of the last people in our graduating class who havent gotten married yet, he told me hes been having trouble finding a woman who wasnt married, didnt already have kids or didnt come with a sizeable amount of drama.
And he isnt alone.
Take Brian, a 22-year-old (albeit young but wise-beyond-his-years) friend of mine. In a recent conversation, Brian confessed that all he wants is a girl to take care of. A nice girl. Someone who doesnt wear clear heels on a Friday night and whose idea of a good time doesnt involve body shots. You know, someone I can just curl up next to and make breakfast for in the morning. Someone I dont have to worry is going to sleep with my roommate tomorrow.
Or my friend Mike, who at 29 is tired of having to hold a girls hair back over the toilet at the conclusion of an otherwise fun evening.
Now, you can say these guys are responsible for the types of women they attract, but after surveying the scene here in Charlotte, Im going to have to side with the boys. Ladies, before you get all up in arms about this, Im not saying that there arent bad men out there. There are. Everywhere. But I guess I always just assumed that this kind of disappointment was primarily a female problem. And I think we all know what happens when you assume.
As women, were brought up to believe that were the prize. That men are the ones who need to change, who are innately defective in this scenario. But being the fairer gender does not exclude us from common decency and otherwise respectable behavior. Before you head out for another weekend of pantyless bull riding and later find yourself complaining that there are no good men out there consider the fact that you may not be a good woman. Because there are good men. They just no longer want your kind of drama.
Alison Henry
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today September 15 , 2010 as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
Fabulous Feast Wednesday at The Men's Club
Guys Night Out at The Sunset Club
Wet Wednesday at Leather and Lace SouthEnd
No Cover at Club Onyx
Half off martini night at Cosmos Cafe
So it's harder to get your adult services from Craigslist now. Have no fear, seeker of random hookups on the Internet, Charlotteohsohandy is here.
Much like Craigslist, the site offers classifieds and a personal section. If you look closely, you can find ads for "a well-endowed male seeking wetness" and a hook up for the week.
But if Craigslist has taught us anything about online lust, you have to be careful. A pretty face or hot body could be hiding a killer instinct.
Please, however, be cautious when establishing a relationship online. The dangers are there, so be sure to watch for red flags. As much as we would like to be able to believe this person might be "the one", the truth is they certainly may not be. Never give your information online, regardless of how long you have been talking to this person.
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, September 14, 2010 as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
Pub Poker in The QC
Get Down Brown at Dillworth Billiards
$2 Tuesday at Club Onyx
$20 package deal at Leather and Lace SouthEnd
Taco Tuesday at The Men's Club
If your mate is a Carolina Panthers' fan, you are in for a long season of whining and crying. Did you happen to see that New York beatdown the Panthers got on Sunday?
And then there's fantasy football.
For years, sex has been believed to be the number one thought on people's minds daily; however, this survey offers a new look at what's currently on the mind of many of today's men. The online survey of men age 22 and over showed that more than 40 percent of respondents rate Fantasy Football as their number one thought during the day, as compared to only 30% who say that thinking about sex still remains as their top daily thought.
What? Shocking. But have no fear, you can be supportive of your mate without turning into a Football Widow or having to fake loving the game as much as he does. (Trust me, if your mate is cheering for the Panthers, there won't be too many good Sundays this year.)
Start with halftime: If your mate's team is losing, give them a quickie to bring up his or her spirits. Halftime is about 15 to 30 minutes. Make sure you two are alone or if you're up for some adventure, take him/her in the bathroom while your friends moan and groan at the highlights of other games. They won't hear what you two are doing.
Keep in mind, most sports fans believe what they do when their team wins a game, they have to do it every week. That's why he or she wears that same jersey every Sunday and doesn't wash it for 16 weeks. So, if your mate's team comes back after halftime and wins, get ready to bend over in the bathroom or on the sofa for the next 16 to 18 weeks.
Next: Watch the score. If your mate's team is down by 30 in the third quarter, chances are, they're not coming back and your mate is on the verge of a hissy fit. But just because his or her team isn't scoring, it doesn't mean he or she has to be a loser. Give him or her some head. If you're doing it right, the game will become an after thought. If your mate gets tickets to a game, don't be like these two.
Finally: If your mate's team wins, you're going to be treated to the shortest session of sex in your life. Just be prepared for it. Three hours of screaming and cheering can wear anyone out.
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, September 13, 2010 as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
SIN at Club Onyx
Manic Monday at Wild Wing Cafe University
Monday Effen Monday at Uptown Cabaret
Monday Night Pint Night at The Dandelion Market
Penthouse dances at The Gold Club
If you wanted to buy a $5 million estate, wouldnt you like to see how good your woman would look lounging in the bathtub or lying across the king sized bed? (Well, that is, if you're into women.) Of course you would and thats what Nicholas Peters of Peters and Associates is banking on.
About a week ago, the real estate brokering firm decided to amp up its marketing and add a little sex appeal to its postcards and other mailing material. The payoff? Peters said he closed on multimillion dollar home that he hadnt been able to move.
One of our good buddies told my wife and I when we were taking our pictures, 'Why dont we dress you up in a sexier dress, Mariam?' which is my wife 'and lets dress November up, shes our right hand.' And he said 'lets dress you in a more clubbing suit. So, I said, OK, lets try it.
Peters said when those photos went on their flyers, the phones started ringing.
Charlottes housing market isnt the best for sellers these days. According to a September report from Altos Market Research, the average property in the Queen City is on the market for 180 days and thats an affordable house. Peters, who specializes in luxury properties faces bigger hurdles. Thats why he wanted to make a splash with sexy and classy (as he calls it) photos in homes that not only showcase a house but a lifestyle.
We put models in an everyday scene in a house and it created a big boom. Weve had people call and say we saw your picture not your ad and our pictures are only in ads, he said. We are now under contract with two buyers and at one of our houses weve had two showings. And this is on a $5 million house. Before that we hadnt had a showing in four months, he said.
Peters ads have reportedly attracted attention from two professional athletes: a player from the Carolina Panthers and the Cincinnati Bengals. He declined to name who the players are. But the ads have also attracted attention and ire from other realtors in the community, he said.
Weve heard it. November said her oldest kid has been mocked at school. Kids are saying that her mom is selling sex for real estate. Weve heard some comments and we were starting to question if we made the right move. But then when we started talking to our owners, they loved it. And they are my general concern. I could care less about what the general public thinks.
Some other agents, he said, told him in e-mails that this marketing campaign is degrading realtors and making them seem like prostitutes. Some others, he said have even accused him of putting agents in danger because of the provocative ads. They say, you know how much danger we face when were showing houses to the open market and now youre bringing sex into that, he said.
Rather than getting into sparing matches with people who made negative comments, Peters said hes sent them pictures from the entire marketing campaign which shows more than just the women in the bathtub or lying across the bed. Hes received a few apologies as a result.
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, September 10, 2010 as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
Sexy Slang book launch party at Mez
Club Insomnia at The Gold Club
Ladies in Men's Shirts and Nothing Else at The Estate
Guns and Hoses at Suite
After Hours Party at The Men's Club
Here are the five best events to get you hot and bothered with or without a date going down in Charlotte and the surrounding area today, September 9, 2010 as selected by the folks at Creative Loafing.
Uptown Thursday night at BarCharlotte
Kick Ass Lunch at The Men's Club
Met Live featuring Donna Duncan on The Green
Champagne Thursday at Club Onyx
Thirsty Thursday at Baby Dolls