A popular rapper has a song called "Becky" and he's not talking about his love for a chick named Rebecca, he's talking about getting oral sex — or head as Prince and the kids say.
Hip-hop stations played this song by Plies in heavy rotation. Kids downloaded it from iTunes in droves. Everybody wanted that "Becky." So, this study, which says oral sex often precedes intercourse for teens, is surprising to who? Uninformed parents? People who don't listen to the radio? Republicans who wanted to impeach former President Bill Clinton?
Among students who had their first experience with oral sex in ninth grade, all but 9% had had vaginal sex by the end of 11th grade, the study found. Eighty percent of teens who had not had oral sex by the end of 11th grade also had not had vaginal sex.
Most teens said they had intercourse within or after the same six-month period as their first experience with oral sex. Teens largely tended to have oral sex before vaginal sex, rather than the opposite. The study revealed no differences in sexual progression between genders or races.
The question that I'd like the answer to is, why has oral sex become accepted with the teen set? If you're over 30, you remember in high school that being known as the girl who "went down" wasn't a badge of honor. And let's be honest, having oral sex as a teenager is kind of gross — particularly if you're dealing with teen boys. They aren't known as being the cleanest.
Also, we never hear about boys performing oral sex on girls they date.
Sex education programs often ignore the role of oral sex in teens' sexual behavior, instead focusing on abstaining from intercourse and safer sex practices, according to Halpern-Felsher. The study's "findings highlight the need for health care providers, health educators and parents to include discussions of oral sex within a comprehensive sexual education curriculum," she said, adding, "Teens often do not consider oral sex to be sex, and thus might discount these messages as not applying or relevant to their own behaviors."
It's time for sex education programs in schools to take their morals out of the curriculum and teach teens the dangers, pleasures and responsibilities of all types of sex. They're already doing it; we need to make sure they're being safe.