Gotham City, The Blue Store and several others in Manhattan have peep shows in the back.
These are XXX stores in New York that I enjoyed checking out on a recent trip there. But when I returned to the Queen City, I wondered why don't any of the shops in Charlotte have a peep show? I know there is one in Gastonia, but who wants to drive that far? Not me.
Sure we have the best strip club in the nation here, but there's something fun and classic about slipping in a booth and watching one person perform just for you. You're alone with your thoughts and fantasies. No screaming crowd, no need to leave a tip. You can just watch the same thing over and over again if you like.
The peep show is a lost art and it would be wonderful right here in the city limits. So, I'm on a quest to find out why don't we have peep shows. Stay tuned as I share what I discover.
A friend of mine told me that she and her man were getting pretty bored with their sex life. She said that it was always the same thing. Kissing, fucking and sleeping.
The spark was gone, she said.
Until he came home with a set of blindfolds.
My friend said she was a little taken aback at first because he's not the most adventurous guy. Immediately, she thought he's either gotten into my [why am I always considered to be the bad influence?] porn collection or he's cheating. But she decided to keep an open mind on whatever he had planned.
She said he told her they were going to play the Trust game. One partner would blindfold the other and the blindfolded one had to do everything the other partner said.
Of course, he wanted to go first and she went along with it. She told me that the though of not knowing what was going to happen turned her on because knowing how their night was going to end wasn't fun.
With the blindfold securely in place, the first thing he told her to do was open her mouth. She said she half expected him to shove his dick in her mouth since she wasn't keen on giving head, instead, she tasted something sweet. It was a strawberry.
Next, he told her to lay back. Then she felt something cold glide across her nipples.
For the next few hours, she said they played this game until her desire to have sex with him was so strong that they had a thrilling evening that ended up with both of them enjoying their romp.
Granted, this game isn't something new, but I think for those two, it will open doors to more pleasurable sex. She told me that he learned somethings that she likes and she learned things that he likes.
And he actually did get her to give him some head. I say everybody won out with this little game.
You don't need someone else to put together words to turn your lover on and you don't have to be an author to write something hot and steamy to get the drawers dropping and the sex popping.
Here are some tips that I learned from a book titled "How To Write A Dirty Story," by Susie Bright. The book is for writers, of course but it can help you spice up your prose that you plan to share with one person as well.
Bright says in the book, "Writing about sex for yourself, or to share with a lover or dear friend is the quintessential reason to write erotica at all."
So, write about the last time your lover gave you multiple orgasms and tell him or her in vivid detail how you felt, how hard or how wet you got days later and what you did to yourself.
Bright says that she has her students write about sexual experiences and:
The concentration it took to write it was like "reliving it all over again." They felt the heat, the anticipation, the ambivalence -- of it all.
For you, your writing [unless you decide to get it published or post it on your Facebook page] isn't going to be graded or read by the masses. But it should make you hot and bothered. I'm sure Bright doesn't want her students to come to class and do this, but when you're ready to read your little dirty masterpiece to your lover, strip down to nothing. Or put on something tight and black [leather is optional].
Need some background music for your story? Put on John Coltrane's A Love Supreme and put it on repeat or your favorite kind of music.
It's going to be a hot time in your house that night.
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If you're like me, you are so over fireworks shows and overcooked hot dogs to celebrate the birth of this nation.
America is about freedom, so you are free to express yourself in the bed this Fourth of July weekend.
Since the big day falls on a Saturday this year, you either have Friday or Monday off to celebrate -- that is if you have a job. So do it big this weekend.
Don't forget your lubrication and condoms.
Hey, guys I'm going to let you in on a secret, women don't dress for you. We dress for ourselves and other woman.
Now, that doesn't mean you're not on our minds when we flip through that Fredrick's of Hollywood book or walk into The Red Door. But we like the feel of silk and lace against our skin. Still, some of us don't know when to turn down the sex.
Like at work.
Wearing a teddy underneath your business suit does give you an extra bit of swagger, but wearing a teddy for the whole office to see -- not such a good idea.
The Frisky says when being sexy at work, you're the only one who should know about it.
Pubic Topiary: I must admit, I was quite shocked when a seriously high-powered but-very conservatively dressed woman told me about her obsession with her pubic topiary. Apparently, her job requires conservative hair, but a mousy brown bob majorly cramps her longing for a crazy do. The solution: pimped-out pubic hair. Dye it, mold it, whatevs. We like the Just Kittying Kit, which comes with a variety of stencils so you can shape your kitty into whatever your little heart desires. [$39.95, Just Kittying]
Another way to dress sexy at work is fishnet, black pantyhose. Just walking around in fishnets make you think of sex. Pairing them with a business suit will give you a sexy feeling all day.
Just make sure your outfit is very, very business like or you're going to get the wrong kinds of looks from your co-workers and your boss.
The Frisky says:
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I say, skip the panties one day. Either in a pants suit or a long skirt. No one will know unless you tell them. And if you get a great wax job down there before you forgo your panties, you'll be smiling all day.
You can be sexy at work, you just have to keep it more Showtime soft porn than Vivid XXX.
I was reading my friend's Facebook profile last night and she'd posted a quiz of how well do you know me.
Out of the ten questions, I only got three correct and this is someone I'd known for over 20 years. That quiz made me think, do we know the person lying in bed next to us? Maybe you know that he or she likes it when you get on top or likes it up the ass, but do you know what's going on in their mind when they are quietly sitting in a corner?
Why don't we know more about people we sleep with, date and marry?
I'm sure the Cabarrus County woman who's husband used Craigslist to find a man to rape her didn't know how perverted and violent he was. Think about the women who are married to school teachers accused of having sex with young girls, did they know their husbands were child molesters?
People keep secrets, but when you're lusting after a person you don't think about what lies beneath that slick exterior that caught your eye.
We need to change that.
In this microwave world, we don't always know who we are messing with. That sexy MF could end up being that crazy SOB who tries to kill you and your family.
How do you find out what's inside your lover's mind? You have to read between the lines -- logically, that is.
For example, if he says "I don't want a relationship."
He doesn't want a relationship and no amount of sex and blow jobs will change his mind.
Same for women and if you find out that three months later she's dating someone else, that just meant she was trying to let you down easily.
Talking to the person you're sleeping with about things that matter can alert you to whether or not you're sleeping with the enemy. And make sure your talk with this person covers more than the Kama Sutra.
It's 80 degrees outside and if you're anything like me, you just want to curl up under the AC. And that's cool for right now. But what about tonight when the air will be sizzling with heat and sex?
How can you have hot sex tonight and not have a heatstroke? Even though lows are expected to drop into the 60s tonight, you still have to factor in humidity.
So, follow these tips tonight and during these other hot summer nights that are sure to follow:
Of course you need to practice safe sex and using things like ice cream and other items may break down the condom, so keep some extras on hand.
Memorial Day is the first holiday of the summer and the first time in a long time that we've had a paid weekend off. Unless you work for CMS, sorry, but you have to make up that March snow day on Monday.
For the rest of us, we have three days and nights to fill with something. Why not some hot sex? Let Memorial Day weekend be the time you try all that freaky shit you've seen on Red Tube.
Before you do, make sure you stock up on lubes. If you can't get to one of the many adult stores in town, like The Red Door or Adam and Eve, hit you local Wal-Mart and get a box of KY Yours and Mine.
Use as much as you want of this product and rub it every where you want him or her to blow, kiss or lick.
It's likely that some of your friends and family will be having a party this weekend. Make sure you get some ice for later. If it's really hot this weekend, your partner will enjoy an icy addition to oral sex. That way you can heat him or her up and cool her or him down at the same time. Don't forget dessert; you know Auntie's cake tastes even better when you eat it off your lover.
Now, what I'm about to suggest could lead to your arrest, but you have to get caught first. (Wink and we all know that's part of the fun.)
Meet your mate at a park and role play, but take some Deep Woods Off so that the bugs won't feast on you while you two get it on. Also, just to be kind to the next person who will sit on that bench, put something underneath you. No one wants to sit in dried sex fluids.
When you get home from all of your activities this weekend, be sure to take a bath or a shower with your mate. If you wash his or her back, I'm sure you'll get licked er-- washed in return.
If you're over 18 and been with a guy in the 21st century, you've probably had these words uttered to you, "Want to make a video?"
Or maybe you're the camera ham and you asked your lover if he wanted to capture the act on tape. It's all well and good while you two are still together, but what happens when the love/lust is gone?
Unless you're someone like Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashain, a leaked sex tape won't sky rocket you into a celebrity. You may end up a laughing stock in your home town, called all kinds of names and even worse, you might find yourself on the homemade video section of Pornhub.
Think about it, not many people want the world to see them when they're having sex, especially if they aren't getting paid for it. And if you check out the comments under some of the homemade videos on porn sites, it's enough to make you feel sorry for the "actors."
So, if you're going to make a video with your current mate, set some ground rules (and yes, this may take some fun and spontenaity out of the process, but 10 years from now you'll be glad):