Not ready to take that pole dancing class to add some spice to your life or to get a unique workout?
Then you should try belly dancing. But if you're not sure that you'll keep up with it, then check it out for free.
Lotus Dance Studio offers a free intro to bellydancing class at several locations.South Charlotte
September 22, 2009
7:30pm-8:30pm
Ballantyne Hotel and Lodge (Ballantyne Resort) - 10000 Ballantyne Commons Pkwy.
North Charlotte
September 21, 2009
7pm - 8pm
Dance Fever Charlotte - 5818 Prosperity Church Road
September 23, 2009
7pm - 8pm
Dance Productions - 5945-C Orr Road, Charlotte
Make sure to RSVP at 704-249-4379 to reserve your spot. If you sign up for classes youll receive a discount.
The whole pole dancing for exercise craze doesn't seem to be going anywhere.
So, I put in a call to Pole Dance Charlotte to see what makes pole dancing for regular women so exciting.
Some women take it too far, though. When I was on the subway in New York, a group of drunk girls got on and started twirling in the poles in the middle of the train. It was all fun and games until one chick fell. (And yes, me and my companions laughed our asses off.)
Pole Dance Charlotte owner Kelly Adams said pole dancing is a sexy work out that gives women a chance to release their "inner sex kitten." But, she said, she's not turning out the next generation of strippers from her studio.
And while Adams has a dancing background, she's never taken it off on stage. But she knows the benefits of pole dancing. At 41, Adams is in amazing shape and says that often times when she's out with her 17 year old daughter, people comment on how much they look alike.
When you walk into The Pole Dance Charlotte studios, it has more of a ballet school feel than Stripper U.
"Women want to act sexy and they want to be that dancer that's on the stage at the strip club but they don't want to take their clothes off for money in front of a stranger," Adams said.
And it's not easy to do the things you see dancers at gentlemen's clubs do either.
"When they come in, they realize that it's not as easy as it looks," Adams said about pole dancing. "They try a 30 minute class and they say, 'Not only was it fun, but I am sweating, my body is sore and I feel like I've had a regular workout.'"
Adams said because pole dancing as exercise is still new, a lot of her clients are curious to find out what it's all about. "Parties that come in are blown away because they're coming in to have a fun good time and they end up having the work out that they're not expecting," she said.
But let's be real, when you think pole dancing, you do think sex. Adams said that many of her clients pick up moves and the confidence to go home to their mates and add some spice to their love life. But she said it has less to do with the pole and more to do with the fact that after a few sessions, women see a change in their bodies.
And despite the fact that Pole Dance Charlotte is just about working out and having fun, (Adams said she has clients that range from age 18-75 and professional women to house wives) there has been controversy.
If you're looking for a sign to lead you to Pole Dance Charlotte in it's south Charlotte location. You're out of luck.
The landlord where Adams rents her space from wouldn't allow her to put up the Pole Dance Charlotte name or logo. Instead, she said, she had to put up a PDC sign.
Instead of this one.
"One day people will put the stereotype of pole dancing aside and take a look at its benefits to women," Adams said.
Lingerie shop Priscilla's must have gotten married because the South Boulevard location is now Priscilla McCall's.
Having a woman's name on a lingerie store that also sells whips and chains makes people feel more at ease going inside. This shop is well lit and looks more like a chic fashion boutique than some of the places on Wilkinson Boulevard.
The Red Door is another store that has it right. When a sex shop doesn't feel seedy, you don't attract seedy people. I'm ready for Charlotte to bring sex out of the back alleys and neighborhood that are in need of urban renewal.
A little hair pulling and nibbling in the right place is just what a lot of women need to get going in the bed. But if you want to push her over the edge, say something nasty.
A well placed pussy, fuck me and some other choice words will do nothing but make the sex hotter.
Now, this can also backfire. I have a male friend who said he hates to hear a woman say pussy, as in "fuck this pussy."
Says it turns him off like a light switch. So, talking dirty has to come with time. Imagine having sex with someone for the first time and they talk like porn star Eva Angelina. Is that really going to turn you on right away? Better yet, are you going to want anything more than sex from this person?
And there are just some things you don't want to hear in bed. I think The Frisky did a good job of identifying 36 words that should never be uttered during sex.
In my opinion, "just like in jail," should've been number one.
If you've been with your partner for a while, you've done it all and seen enough. But you still have to have do the date night thing. Otherwise you might not get that other thing you want.
So, what can you do that shows thought, creativity and romance -- without having to shell out tons of cash?
Log on to this website first. 4yourdate.com has pretty good ideas about out of the ordinary dates for you and your mate.
My favorite has to be the starry night date.
On a cool evening, take your love outside and spread a blanket out on the ground where you can see the stars. Lay in each others arms and have a very romantic and cheap creative date idea.
Just imagine what you can talk about while looking up at the stars, maybe sipping on some wine or whatever your favorite drink is. If you decide to have this date in your yard and you have a privacy fence, just think how much fun it will be to make love underneath the stars.
Another interesting date idea on the site is movie night in the dark.
Movie Night in the Dark: Rent a movie that you and your date have been wanting to see and sit in the dark with candles all around to watch by. This is a cheap and romantic way to spend the evening, and sitting on the floor wrapped up in blankets is a great way to watch a movie.
You're young, free and sexy.
So, you need a freak kit. This kit should be kept close to you at all times because you never know when you're going to need it.
Here are the five things you should keep in said kit:
A friend of mine told me that she and her man were getting pretty bored with their sex life. She said that it was always the same thing. Kissing, fucking and sleeping.
The spark was gone, she said.
Until he came home with a set of blindfolds.
My friend said she was a little taken aback at first because he's not the most adventurous guy. Immediately, she thought he's either gotten into my [why am I always considered to be the bad influence?] porn collection or he's cheating. But she decided to keep an open mind on whatever he had planned.
She said he told her they were going to play the Trust game. One partner would blindfold the other and the blindfolded one had to do everything the other partner said.
Of course, he wanted to go first and she went along with it. She told me that the though of not knowing what was going to happen turned her on because knowing how their night was going to end wasn't fun.
With the blindfold securely in place, the first thing he told her to do was open her mouth. She said she half expected him to shove his dick in her mouth since she wasn't keen on giving head, instead, she tasted something sweet. It was a strawberry.
Next, he told her to lay back. Then she felt something cold glide across her nipples.
For the next few hours, she said they played this game until her desire to have sex with him was so strong that they had a thrilling evening that ended up with both of them enjoying their romp.
Granted, this game isn't something new, but I think for those two, it will open doors to more pleasurable sex. She told me that he learned somethings that she likes and she learned things that he likes.
And he actually did get her to give him some head. I say everybody won out with this little game.
The Diversity Den, located at 160 Concord Commons Drive, wants you to dance the Argentine Tango.
Every Tuesday night, dancers and wanna be dancers come together and learn the tango from instructor Greg Gershowitz.
So, what is the Argentine Tango?
Well, it's not hiking the Appalachian Trail -- Mark Sanford.
It's more of a social dance than the regular tango.
According to Wikipedia:
Argentine tango is danced in an embrace that can vary from very open, in which leader and follower connect at arms length, to very closed, in which the connection is chest-to-chest, or anywhere in between. Close embrace is often associated with the more traditional styles, while open embrace leaves room for many of the embellishments and figures that are associated with tango nuevo.
And that makes this dance sexy and great way to feel up on your partner without getting slapped. At the Diversity Den, you don't need a dance partner, so if you're looking for a bit of a summer romance, here's your chance to meet someone new.
And if you and your mate are tired of the same old dates -- you know, dinner, movie and bedroom -- then here's something new and exciting to try.
It's 80 degrees outside and if you're anything like me, you just want to curl up under the AC. And that's cool for right now. But what about tonight when the air will be sizzling with heat and sex?
How can you have hot sex tonight and not have a heatstroke? Even though lows are expected to drop into the 60s tonight, you still have to factor in humidity.
So, follow these tips tonight and during these other hot summer nights that are sure to follow:
Of course you need to practice safe sex and using things like ice cream and other items may break down the condom, so keep some extras on hand.
Memorial Day is the first holiday of the summer and the first time in a long time that we've had a paid weekend off. Unless you work for CMS, sorry, but you have to make up that March snow day on Monday.
For the rest of us, we have three days and nights to fill with something. Why not some hot sex? Let Memorial Day weekend be the time you try all that freaky shit you've seen on Red Tube.
Before you do, make sure you stock up on lubes. If you can't get to one of the many adult stores in town, like The Red Door or Adam and Eve, hit you local Wal-Mart and get a box of KY Yours and Mine.
Use as much as you want of this product and rub it every where you want him or her to blow, kiss or lick.
It's likely that some of your friends and family will be having a party this weekend. Make sure you get some ice for later. If it's really hot this weekend, your partner will enjoy an icy addition to oral sex. That way you can heat him or her up and cool her or him down at the same time. Don't forget dessert; you know Auntie's cake tastes even better when you eat it off your lover.
Now, what I'm about to suggest could lead to your arrest, but you have to get caught first. (Wink and we all know that's part of the fun.)
Meet your mate at a park and role play, but take some Deep Woods Off so that the bugs won't feast on you while you two get it on. Also, just to be kind to the next person who will sit on that bench, put something underneath you. No one wants to sit in dried sex fluids.
When you get home from all of your activities this weekend, be sure to take a bath or a shower with your mate. If you wash his or her back, I'm sure you'll get licked er-- washed in return.