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Thursday, April 18, 2013
The Sexologist CL debuts sex columnist
Posted By Becky Knight on Thu, Apr 18, 2013 at 10:00 AM
When I tell people that I am a clinical sexologist, they usually pause for a moment, as if expecting the punch line to a joke. Then they eye me with a puzzled expression and ask, "Is that a real thing?"
Yes, sexology is a very real field of study, and it is about more than sex, just as sex is about more than intercourse. Sexology is multidisciplinary, encompassing biology, physiology, psychology and sociology. It explores the diversity of human relationships and sexual development. We study sexual attitudes, beliefs and behaviors and their connection to religion, politics and the criminal justice system. Some sexologists are college professors, some focus on studying sexual pathologies or dysfunctions, and some do research in laboratories.
But that all sounds rather boring to most folks. They prefer to imagine me sitting on a leather sofa surrounded by porn and giant dildos. That's only partly accurate. I do have a leather sofa, but only a few educational videos and toys lying around. What I am surrounded by in my office are lots and lots of books.
I am a sex nerd.
Friday, March 29, 2013
Hard News Weekend Wonders: Bacon-flavored condoms
Posted By Kimberly Lawson on Fri, Mar 29, 2013 at 10:03 AM
As you kick off your weekend, ponder this ...
Just when you thought the bacon craze was on its way out the door, the guys who brought us bacon salt, baconnaise, bacon popcorn, bacon shaving cream and whole plethora of other bacon-flavored products have now released ... drumroll please ... bacon-flavored condoms.
According to J&D, the "meat-shaped and flavored condoms" are "of the highest quality latex." As an added bonus - and salty safety precaution - each condom includes "J&D's baconlube™ ultra premium water based meat flavored personal lubricant."
For $9.99, a pack of three fulfills your need to taste and smell like real meat when you bang.
And of course, a quick visit to the website this morning reveals they are out of stock.
What do you think? Too much?
Friday, November 9, 2012
Misc. Free books: Zane Presents
Posted By Kimberly Lawson on Fri, Nov 9, 2012 at 8:30 AM
Yesterday, we gave away a bunch of foodie-type books, found on our office shelves by yours truly. Today, the book giveaway focuses on steamy romance novels, all recommended by the erotic fiction writer Zane herself. After all, she published them.
One reader gets to take all 11 books home. All you have to do is drop us a comment below: Share with us a paragraph of your own personal erotic novel. No critics here: Just good, dirty fun.
We'll pick the entry that makes us the most hot and bothered. (Make sure to include the correct email when you sign in to comment that's how we'll be getting in touch.)
**Must be able to come by CL's offices at the N.C. Music Factory to pick up books between the hours of 9 a.m.-5 p.m. during the week.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Interviews Chatting with erotic romance author Joey Hill
Posted By Megan Henshall on Tue, Aug 21, 2012 at 12:53 PM
I recently wrote what was intended to be a very satirical, tongue-in-cheek online article about the 50 Shades of Grey book trilogy. Although I did actually read the books, which were a total wrecking ball on my life for two weeks, I had very little understanding of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, and Sadomasochism) or the dominant/submissive lifestyles. After the article was posted, a reader accosted me with comments for “slut-shaming” people who participate in alternative sexual experiences. The shock passed quickly, because she was wrong and obviously didn’t see the article for its intended humor, but it did manifest a curiosity about the role of the sexual submissive, particularly for women.
I swiftly assumed the character of the cat curiosity killed and started ingesting any related information that I could get my hands on. Admittedly, watching Real Sex and reading BDSM literature was some of the most entertaining research I’ve ever done. Not long after (by chance and with a stroke of luck) I was introduced to Joey W. Hill, a successful author of erotic and paranormal romance novels, and herself a submissive.
Hill explained that many people have a natural inclination toward a submissive or dominant lifestyle, just as people are intrinsically attracted to men or women. “At 6 years old, my Ken doll was tying up Barbie in the basement of the dreamhouse," Hill said with a giggle. “I was an administrative assistant for 20 years. There is just that orientation in me to support. It’s what I am.”
Friday, July 6, 2012
love Is it time for Charlotte ladies to pay up?
Posted By April Smith on Fri, Jul 6, 2012 at 1:34 PM
I’m a Southern gal. I’m from Virginia and have lived in Charlotte for more than five years. I call people “sweetie” and “babe” and say “Bless your heart." As a woman in the South, I also expect to be treated like a lady. If a man asks me to dinner, I expect him to foot the bill and open doors and push in chairs along the way. Not everyone, it seems, is in agreement with this Southern way of dating.
A male friend and I were posted up one day at a bar, watching a game, and ventured into a debate that I will never forget. My friend strongly stated that if a guy asks a lady out on a first date, then the lady should at least offer to pay her half. I was floored by my friend’s opinion.
As such, I posted this poll question on Twitter to hear the reactions of others: “If a guy asks a girl to a date, should the girl at least offer to pay for her half?” The majority of the responses agreed with my thinking that a man should always pay for the first date. But there were a few (men) who said that she should at least offer to pay and that just the gesture would say a lot about her character.
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Misc. 50 Shades of cataclysm
Posted By Megan Henshall on Wed, Jun 27, 2012 at 12:25 PM
Many believe that 2012 is the year of Armageddon. The Mayan calendar ends in December, there are rumors of a zombie apocalypse bubbling on the East coast due to a string of flesh-eating incidents, and there are hourly hillbilly threats of bloody revolution if Obama gets re-elected in trailer parks all over the southeast.
I agree that we are on a path to destruction this year, but not because of fanatical politics, zombies or solar flares. No, no. I believe that the imminent demise of the human race will prove to be a direct result of the 50 Shades of Grey book trilogy by author and probable antichrist E.L. James.
50 Shades is the story of ingénue Anastasia Steele, a college student who is the personification of the moth, aware but tragically drawn to the flame - the flame being one Christian Grey. Christian is a wildly attractive and successful entrepreneur. A billionaire before the age of 30, he has serious stalker tendencies, deep-seated mommy issues and a dark need to be in complete control of everyone and everything. As a result of this personality cocktail, Christian is a self-proclaimed sadist who contractually takes women with physical likenesses to his crack whore biological mother as his submissives , thus allowing him the liberty to beat the hell out of them with various objects, tie them up in what sound like highly uncomfortable positions, and "fuck them" senseless.
Not immediately alarming or terribly far removed from the loose plot of many low budget pornographic films, right?
The content of 50 Shades isn't a call for Jihad or the vehicle to inexplicable death within seven days of exposure, like the VHS from The Ring, but the side effects from ingesting this text are far more hazardous than anyone could have imagined. These books are the nuclear bomb of our generation. This entirely new brand of evil should not be taken lightly.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
feature Let down your hair (and bra) during amateur night at a strip club?
Posted By Megan Henshall on Tue, May 1, 2012 at 4:59 PM
I realize that having a bucket list of things to do before you die is no novelty. Most people do, in one form or another. Mine is scribbled out in an old leather ledger that my ex-boyfriend gifted to me on a birthday back in college. He was great at gifts and that ledger, still cherished, has made it through several moves and subsequent boyfriends. I often talk openly about my scribed list of things to accomplish pre mortem. It serves as good dinner or "getting to know you" conversation.
What I don't candidly discuss is my top secret internal list of things I'd like to try before death that I would NEVER, even if threatened with water torture or fiery torches, want anyone to have knowledge of. That register is hidden in the most shadowy part of my brain space, for me and me alone. Well ... until now, where I will very publicly confess and detail one line item in particular:
I strongly desire to perform in an amateur night at a strip club.
The yearning started when I was in middle school. I was watching MTV, without my parents' knowledge or permission, at a friend's house when the seed was firmly planted. The plot to Aerosmith's "Crazy" music video unfolded before my young eyes, and I wanted nothing more than to live with the frivolity of Liv Tyler or Alicia Silverstone in that moment. I wanted to go topless while riding in a retro convertible. I needed to feel the wind in my hair and the deliverance of doing something so very opposite of the girl that I was at the time. As the scene ended where they tag-team a burlesque dance for money, I committed to myself that I would, at some point when I wouldn't get grounded for it, shed my goody-two-shoes image. I would one day choreograph a sex-kitten routine during which I would take my clothes off for an audience of completely enchanted strange men.
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Misc. Is your sex life 'Gone In 60 Seconds' or 'Free Willy'?
Posted By April Smith on Wed, Apr 25, 2012 at 1:39 PM
One night a friend and I were hanging out at a bar, perusing Facebook (because that's what you do apparently while out for the night). We stumbled upon a graphic that read, "Describe your sex life using a movie title." Without thinking, I blurted out The Fast and The Furious and immediately my dude friend was dying of laughter.
It is seriously an understatement when I say he and I went back and forth for about an hour with witty movie titles that could be dirty in so many ways. It's like the fortune cookie game: Add "in bed" to the end of every fortune you find in a fortune cookie and you're guaranteed a chuckle.
So in honor of passing along the fun and hours of hilarity to you, I've asked dozens of people to describe their sex life using a movie title.
Here are their most hilarious responses:
Here are their responses:
KR: "Gone in 60 Seconds"
AB: "Any Given Sunday"
AB: "Mission Impossible"
Thursday, April 12, 2012
He said/She said You know you haven't had sex in a long time when ...
Posted By April Smith on Thu, Apr 12, 2012 at 9:49 AM
We all know what it's like to hit that dreaded dry spell.
You know, the one where you can't even remember how long it's been since you've gotten any. Does this sound familiar, ladies? You stop shaving because you know no one will even see your legs (or anything else for that matter). And, men, you have to be concerned when you start considering women your mother's age as an option, right?
At what point is TOO long to go without doing the dirty?! I asked several people around Charlotte to finish this statement: "You know you haven't had sex in a long time when ___________."
Here are their responses:
BB: "You start hitting on the little Asian dry-cleaning lady."
BO: "Your computer gets a virus."
ML: "You go in for your Brazilian and your esthetician tells you it's been three months since your last one ... and you usually go every four weeks."
AT: "You become ambidextrous just to spice things up."
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Meet Market Going once, going twice: Win a date with one of Charlotte's most eligible bachelors
Posted By Laura Camilo on Wed, Apr 11, 2012 at 9:13 AM
"There just aren't any men in Charlotte!" I've whined to my almost exclusively coupled up circle of friends, as they nod in mock sympathy. Clearly, I need to find a new brood of single ladies to commiserate with.
Birds of a perennially single feather such as myself would be wise to flock to the Deltas of Charlotte Foundation Bachelor Auction.
The event includes a Silent and Live Auction. During the Silent Auction, bidders can select from an assortment of items such as themed baskets, artwork or jewelry. But it's the Live Auction that's likely to keep us on our toes.
During the Live Auction, ladies have the opportunity to bid on a date with one of Charlotte's eligible bachelors, ranging in age from 25 to 65. DOCF promises a "someone for everyone" selection of gentlemen, with plenty of diversity in culture, careers and personality. The bid also includes a package consisting of various items such as gift certificates for dinner for two, spa services, and a variety of activities. The proceeds will support scholarships for college-bound women and to DOCF's mentorship programs, Delta Academy and Delta G.E.M.S.
You can mingle with your new beau at the Official Bachelor Auction after-party, at Blue Restaurant.
DOCF suggests interested parties buy their tickets ASAP, as a sold-out event is likely.
$25. Saturday, May 5. 6 p.m. McGlohon Theatre, 345 N. College St.
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